Post by searching4peace on Feb 7, 2017 8:00:27 GMT -8
I have some questions. I was bullied throughout my childhood and teenage years. Is bullying considered a traumatic experience? Is it considered child abuse? Were you ever bullied as a child? Did it cause any of your problems today? I just want to know if it could've caused my love addiction. Or if I'm just being overly dramatic..
I have been bullied most of the time since birth literally; way back the moment I was born with darker skin tone than my biological parents; when I was a kid studying in school where my sibling was an honor student while I was just a passing, average student; and at home, where growing up, my siblings were more favored and popular in the neighborhood. (You can read some of it in my self-esteem" story, loveaddictionforum.proboards.com/thread/13735/self-esteem-story.) And up to these days there are still some bullies I met. A colleague would even bully me for whatever positive I'm doing like when I'm taking classes in between my work, etc. (I guess there would be like a Bully Trump wherever we are.)
Yes, it is a traumatic experience and definitely an abuse. Verbal and emotional abuse. It's quite disheartening. It's an awful experience especially for a child. It affects our self-worth, and having low self-worth can cause addiction or addictive behavior.
Nevertheless, we cannot control someone else's behavior. They can bully us all they want. But we don't let them take its toll on us by avoiding them and other toxic people, places, and stuff as much as possible; by filling our minds with good stuff, taking care of our needs, joining supportive community, keeping a journal, equipping ourselves, etc...
You're being true and honest here. Your awareness and desire to learn and get well are great. Keep it up. We're learning from each other.
Your recovery is worth the pain of your withdrawal. Remember that "the pain you feel today will be the strength you feel tomorrow." Fantasy-based relationship is a lie. Face your reality and stay well!Kind Regards to all LAA members here, - Codepnomore