Post by hanger916 on May 20, 2017 16:25:50 GMT -8
Hello all. I am a recovering love addict that has made it halfway thru his life before doing the "work". In the past year, I've separated from a 27 marriage to someone who mimicked my childhood trauma. I broke free and realized I was empty. I learned I was a Love Addict, codependent, etc.
Ive been in a couple of relationships where I ruined with my addiction. The one I am presently in almost ended the same way. But this person understands because she has been in the same place. When I began over sharing, over complimenting, begging for a commitment after a month, she shut it down. She told me that we both need to be stronger before proceeding. Become friends first, let it evolve, grow it and see where it goes. To me, shes giving me a second chance. For the past 2 weeks, I have not acted out by texting, calling, questioning etc. And I believe because I have put a effort into this, it has become better. But its excruciatingly difficult not to. I find my mind running wild, bad thoughts, etc. Im just having a tough time moving to the next level of becoming able to keep these things from happening again.
Have you been there? what advice do you have?