Post by Susan Peabody on Sept 11, 2017 11:34:53 GMT -8
It does not happen very often, but every now and then love addicts gets addicted to emotional pain and self-pity. I was addicted to self-pity because it was as close as I could get to giving myself some attention instead of caring just about my PoA. I also used to cut myself to feel alive and to have a reason to nurse myself when I felt no one else cared. This is discussed in the following article and in the book, Addiction and Grace by Gerald May.
The solution is to love yourself and let go of the pain as best you can. Believe that you are lovable and a child of God.
Post by loveaddict on Sept 13, 2017 4:28:43 GMT -8
I really believe in this... now I feel so bored that even pain seems better than "numbness" so in a way some really are addicted to pain... it's a form of escapism... also maybe we are too familiar with emotional pain that we don't any any other way to live