Post by Susan Peabody on Nov 12, 2017 17:44:43 GMT -8
I started this board because I get messages like this . . .
Hello Susan my name is Sarah and I am in desperate need of help. I am currently trapped in a 2 year abusive relationship with my scziprenic boyfriend. He has given me 10 black eyes in these two years as well as broken my nose and gave me eye socket fractures, stitches and many bruises and sprains . I love him so much but I know that I am codependant. I rely on him for stability now and for helping me get to appointments with his car and such. I really think I could benefit from LAA meetings if you could get back to me when you can that would be great
Hope to hear from you soon,
Please share your experiences so that others will know they are not alone. I am a survivor myself. In 1967 my husband used to beat me every night if I did not do what I was told. He used to bring other women and wanted me to sleep with them and when I did not he would just beat me up. When I tried to leave he hit me in the face with a wine bottle and kept me hostage for three days. I finally got help and left. He came back everyday to torment me until he moved on to another victim.
This also happens to men. See the movie: "Men Don't Tell."
Post by teenieperfect34 on Jul 28, 2022 19:49:10 GMT -8
I am a survivor I was in an abusive relationship with a man for 8 years and honestly, most of my relationships before him were borderline abusive in some way. the most recent lesson I met told me that telling my story all the time made me look weak and it made me a target, so I understand the reluctance we have in expressing it when you don't want to seem weak to people who you want to see your strength. I think his words resonate with me currently because he targeted me, and as I see the error of my ways, I understand that I'm not ever going to stop sharing my story or stop trying to get people to know there is a way out of the pain your trapped in. pain is temporary you situation is temporary. love is a lesson we all learn
Maybe the lesson here is to be selective about who you choose to share your story with. When you are first getting to know someone, it can be hard to tell if they are trustworthy or not. So I would say—share, but with people you feel safe with.
What if….I could do Step Three BEFORE my life becomes a total disaster?