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Post by shastafame411 on Dec 18, 2017 14:42:10 GMT -8
I had a chance to talk to Debbie and I snubbed her. It was probably the only time I had to talk to her. I saw and I remember thinking to myself “there the person who caused me all these problems”
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2017 19:47:35 GMT -8
I had a chance to talk to Debbie and I snubbed her. It was probably the only time I had to talk to her. I saw and I remember thinking to myself “there the person who caused me all these problems” Shasta, I recall you had a difficult time with your mother. I am curious about if you have made any connections between your relationship with mother and your feelings around other older women. You have not posted in a while, I would like to hear more about you. |
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Post by shastafame411 on Dec 19, 2017 20:09:04 GMT -8
I had a chance to talk to Debbie and I snubbed her. It was probably the only time I had to talk to her. I saw and I remember thinking to myself “there the person who caused me all these problems” Shasta, I recall you had a difficult time with your mother. I am curious about if you have made any connections between your relationship with mother and your feelings around other older women. You have not posted in a while, I would like to hear more about you. I live with my mom. She won’t let me go and has hard time relinquishing control. I’m working detaching from my mom. I planning on leaving for college in Florida. In the past I have moved away and my mom has come and got me. She tells me “ United we stand divided we fall” basically I “fall” with out her. She told me I can to college if agree to become a department manager at Walmart. If I did that my education would be waste of time. I working on getting my insurance license again she told I cannot use and can only sell insurance to her. She doesn’t want me to out shine her. Wants me to stay in the working class and doesn’t believe in upward mobility. As for older women. This is the same older woman I was talking about before. However I do see as her person. I’m think she or someone she knows follows me on here Instagram. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2017 21:01:51 GMT -8
... I live with my mom. She won’t let me go and has hard time relinquishing control. I’m working detaching from my mom. ...
www.psychpage.com/learning/library/counseling/bowen.html
The part I am interested in, for you, is Differentiation from Parents...
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Post by shastafame411 on Dec 20, 2017 6:36:25 GMT -8
I have read this before. This is the way my mom was raised. She was raised in a collective society. You abandon your needs to meet the needs of others. Also she was raised in the 1950s aka era of conformity. Very few woman went to college. I’m learning little by little. My mom just thinks I think like her. I just keep a lot of things to myself www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/collectivism |
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Post by Susan Peabody on Dec 20, 2017 13:58:43 GMT -8
This is just my opinion . . . I have know lesbians and gay men since my drinking days. I used to get drunk in gay bars and go home with the bisexual men. I have always been attracted to gay men and women and wanted for years to be a lesbian because I never fit in as part of the heterosexual world where I was seen as too masculine. Over the years I have come to the conclusion that some men and women are born with a natural desire for a same-sex union both romantically and sexually. In the Bible it says that homosexuality is only a sin if it is connected to promiscuity. If there is love involved it is good. Some men and women turn to the gay world because they were sexually traumatized as a child by a parent of the opposite sex. Some men and women are bisexual and enjoy sex with both genders. Some men and women just do not feel at home in the straight world and turn to the gay community for acceptance. Some men and women, like me, and fall in love with a beautiful, kind person and don't care what gender they are. Some men and women to people of the same gender because they are heterosexual but are afraid of emotional intimacy. The bottom line is that we love and accept each other no matter how we might differ from each other. God is love so they say. Let's try to spread it around. Not romantic love that is addictive, but agape love and the love that inspires the milk of human kindness. |
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