The Passionate Love Scale

We would like to know how you feel (or once felt) about the person you love, or have loved, most passionately. Some common terms for passionate love are romantic love, infatuation, love sickness, or obsessive love.

Please think of the person whom you love most passionately right now. If you are not in love, please think of the last person you loved. If you have never been in love, think of the person you came closest to caring for in that way.

Try to describe the way you felt when your feelings were most intense. Answers range from (1) Not at all true to (9) Definitely true.

Whom are you thinking of?

• Someone I love right now.
• Someone I once loved.
• I have never been in love.

Not True 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 Definitely True


(   ): I would feel deep despair if _____ left me.  

(   ): Sometimes I feel I can’t control my thoughts; they are obsessively on _____.  

(   ): I feel happy when I am doing something to make _____ happy.  

(   ): I would rather be with _____ than anyone else. 

(   ): I’d get jealous if I thought _____ were falling in love with someone else. 

(   ): I yearn to know all about _____. 

(   ): I want _____ physically, emotionally, mentally.

(   ): I have an endless appetite for affection from _____.

(   ): For me, _____ is the perfect romantic partner.

(   ): I sense my body responding when _____ touches me.

(   ): _____ always seems to be on my mind.

(   ): I want _____ to know me, my thoughts, my fears, and my hopes.

(   ): I eagerly look for signs indicating _____’s desire for me. 

(   ): I possess a powerful attraction for _____. 

(   ): I get extremely depressed when things don't go right in my relationship with _____.


Total: _______

Results:

• 106-135 points = Wildly, even recklessly, in love.
• 86-105 points = Passionate, but less intense.
• 66-85 points = Occasional bursts of passion.
• 45-65 points = Tepid, infrequent passion.
• 15-44 points = The thrill is gone.