Post by annebelle on Jun 11, 2018 18:31:45 GMT -8
Have you ever been in denial about how toxic a relationship was, and then find yourself reading an article and checking off every sign that your relationship was way unhealthier than you thought it was?
The other day I learned the term “love bombing”, which describes my ex so perfectly that it scares me. Before we’d even started dating he’d spout out stuff like, “I know you and I have romantic chemistry, and I know that you’ll be in my life for decades. I don’t know how those will play out, but it will be interesting to see what happens.” Then when we were actually dating he’d call me his soulmate, and say how perfect we were, and all of our conversations would be about the future: “when we’re married...when we have kids...our kids are going to be...you’re perfect for me.” People would always comment on how much in love he was with me.
(For the record, I eventually broke it off with this dude, but not before moving to a vastly different part of the country)
Even back then had a feeling that this type of behavior wasn’t okay. We never fought, because I could do no wrong in his eyes.
I’m just so glad that I learned the name for this type of behavior. I’ve never felt so validated in my life.