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Post by orchids on Jul 2, 2018 19:03:22 GMT -8
Are there any other practicing Buddhists here? Personally I find Buddhist philosophy to go hand in hand with recovery from love addiction. The whole concept of letting go of our attachments to our aversions is so easily applied to the concept of recovery from addiction. Plus the main aim of Buddhism is to lesson our suffering, as someone with BPD I got interested in Buddhism after reading a really fantastic memoir called The Buddha and The Borderline because the thought of reducing my suffering sounded pretty fantastic. And in all honesty, I've done years upon years of all different kinds of counseling, therapies, skills groups, support groups, you name it. Nne of it ever made a huge dent in my suffering.... but when I began to immerse myself in Buddhist philosophy and to try to live in the mindset of approaching everything and everyone in my life from a place of loving kindness, my emotional baseline actually went down. Suddenly I was able to find that space in between my internal reactions and my external reactions. I was able to stop, think, breathe, and choose a healthier response. Something I was never able to do before, not with all the DBT skills in the world or anything else. it would be great to have a discussion on here about the ways the Buddha Dharma apply to recovery and how we can utilize it to help ourselves along this path.
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Post by destiny on Jul 17, 2018 15:14:42 GMT -8
Hello Orchid!
Happy to know about your progress. I admire Buddha’s philosophy. what I gathered from my limited knowledge about Buddhism is that suffering is part of life. the approach to avoid suffering is to stay in the middle path. Witness joy and sorrow without participating. Nothing is permanent and we are on this earth for a short time and being human is a blessing. we have the capability to attain Nirvana ( pinnacle of spirituality) which can be achieved by not gaining certain things or affection but by leaving all the negative traits like ego, anger, attachments, jealousy etc. The best approach to get free from these negative traits is by being in present and witness surroundings without getting affected. Meditation defintely helps. Its helping. Thanks
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Post by Susan Peabody on Aug 9, 2020 13:40:52 GMT -8
"Now, though it’s grown out of the mud, once it blooms and breaks the surface of the water, the lotus flower is entirely unmarked by the mud. Here the lotus flower being free of the mud symbolizes that the mind that opens to compassion can transcend suffering. Whenever you doubt your self-worth, remember the Lotus Flower." Tina Turner was a love addict. She found recovery through Buddhism. What's Love Got to Do with ItTina Turner You must understand how the touch of your hand Makes my pulse react That it's only the thrill of boy meeting girl Opposites attract It's physical Only logical You must try to ignore that it means more than that What's love got to do, got to do with it What's love but a second hand emotion What's love got to do, got to do with it Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken It may seem to you that I'm acting confused When you're close to me If I tend to look dazed I've read it someplace I've got cause to be There's a name for it There's a phrase that fits But whatever the reason you do it for me What's love got to do, got to do with it What's love but a second hand emotion What's love got to do, got to do with it Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken I've been taking on a new direction But I have to say I've been thinking about my own protection It scares me to feel this way What's love got to do, got to do with it What's love but a sweet old fashioned notion What's love got to do, got to do with it Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken
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