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Post by shairalopez26 on Aug 6, 2018 16:41:08 GMT -8
We’ve been dating for quite some time now, so I don’t know why he hasn’t asked me to be his girlfriend yet. I think three months is enough time to get to know one another and I really want to move our relationship to the next level and become official. We’ve never been on a trip together before, but last night he invited me to a Ukraine ski trip with his family. I’ve never met them before and I feel like this is a huge step, since he’s going to introduce me to them, and we’re gonna be spending the whole weekend together. Is it appropriate for me to expect him to finally ask me to be his girlfriend? Or am I just setting myself up for disappointment?
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Post by matrix on Aug 7, 2018 9:17:00 GMT -8
I believe it takes more than three months to get to know someone. Also getting to know someone without any intimacy can help to see who they really are. That’s what I’m discovering right now. I’ve been spending time with a man and he wants to “lock it down” by adding a label to us but I don’t want that. I really want to do things differently.
As for your trip, what a great opportunity to be in a different environment so you can really get to know each other. Sounds healthy to me!
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Post by shairalopez26 on Aug 9, 2018 15:26:58 GMT -8
Welcome Sharia! So glad you are here. Your post resonated with me, as I have always been the one to fast forward a relationship to get it to a place where I feel safe. I encourage you not to do that. Let him progress naturally without the pressure. What have you really won because YOU feel it is the right time? You have taken away his opportunity to chase (and win) you, which is a natural male instinct. You won't get that back. I did the same thing with my husband, and I missed out on him pursuing me, I regret it. Try not to go into the trip with any expectations, just have fun! Best of luck, enjoy your trip and keep us posted!! Omg, your reply really made me feel better! I can't thank you enough for relieving some of the thoughts I've been having. I'll just have to enjoy what we both have instead of expecting so much from him. I'll go ahead and happily accept his invitation. Thanks so much! |
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Post by shairalopez26 on Aug 9, 2018 15:29:02 GMT -8
I believe it takes more than three months to get to know someone. Also getting to know someone without any intimacy can help to see who they really are. That’s what I’m discovering right now. I’ve been spending time with a man and he wants to “lock it down” by adding a label to us but I don’t want that. I really want to do things differently. As for your trip, what a great opportunity to be in a different environment so you can really get to know each other. Sounds healthy to me! It actually does sound lovely the more I think about it! I'll try seeing things in your perspective and lessen my expectations with him. I'll definitely enjoy my time with him and his family. Hopefully, this opportunity will allow them to see how much he makes me happy. Thanks! |
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