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Post by forumposter on Oct 6, 2018 1:27:39 GMT -8
Do you feel instant attraction when you randomly see a poa lookalike, and want to ask them out? Does this mean you are trying to recreate the time you spent with your poa originally, or does this mean you like this 'type' of person?
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Post by Susan Peabody on Oct 6, 2018 14:53:52 GMT -8
Do you feel instant attraction when you randomly see a poa lookalike, and want to ask them out? Does this mean you are trying to recreate the time you spent with your poa originally, or does this mean you like this 'type' of person? Yes . . . Attraction is based on projection. You project an image of someone you once loved, including people in your childhood, and then feel the attraction. For more about this search "Imago" or see the works of Harville Hebdrix. |
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Post by forumposter on Oct 7, 2018 6:00:13 GMT -8
I was seeing someone for a short time a few years ago. After it ended they became a poa. So now when I see a lookalike of that person, that's me projecting my imago of the person from a fewyears ago, onto someone who looks like them because they look like them and that's still projection?
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Post by Susan Peabody on Oct 7, 2018 17:31:59 GMT -8
I was seeing someone for a short time a few years ago. After it ended they became a poa. So now when I see a lookalike of that person, that's me projecting my imago of the person from a fewyears ago, onto someone who looks like them because they look like them and that's still projection? Yes. That is projection. Genuine love comes getting to know someone. |
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Post by forumposter on Oct 12, 2018 8:04:10 GMT -8
I've noticed that, I can get another poa if after seeing someone for a short time it ends. Sometimes it seems like I don't want the poa from a few years ago.
But what happens is, any poa thats more recent... I realise that they had some red flags, or maybe I didn't like them that much. So after some time I move on. But, I then go back to wanting the poa from a few years ago. Isn't that odd? Like, I'd need to go back and have a look at my notes to see for sure, but sometimes I have felt like, I don't need the poa from years ago, but once the current poa wears off, I then go back to the one from years ago. However when I was seeing someone or some of the more recent people, I wanted other people and/or the poa from a few years ago in the moment before the current person became a temporary poa.
The poa from a few years ago... when I first met them, there was something , even though there were maybe more attractive people in the area where I met this person, there was something about them that I liked but I dunno what it is. And that was in the moment, before they became a poa. So is that , like connection or whatever "that" is, is that a possible reason why I keep going back to this poa where as the other ones sort of wear off?
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Post by Susan Peabody on Oct 13, 2018 12:04:08 GMT -8
I've noticed that, I can get another poa if after seeing someone for a short time it ends. Sometimes it seems like I don't want the poa from a few years ago. But what happens is, any poa thats more recent... I realise that they had some red flags, or maybe I didn't like them that much. So after some time I move on. But, I then go back to wanting the poa from a few years ago. Isn't that odd? Like, I'd need to go back and have a look at my notes to see for sure, but sometimes I have felt like, I don't need the poa from years ago, but once the current poa wears off, I then go back to the one from years ago. However when I was seeing someone or some of the more recent people, I wanted other people and/or the poa from a few years ago in the moment before the current person became a temporary poa. The poa from a few years ago... when I first met them, there was something , even though there were maybe more attractive people in the area where I met this person, there was something about them that I liked but I dunno what it is. And that was in the moment, before they became a poa. So is that , like connection or whatever "that" is, is that a possible reason why I keep going back to this poa where as the other ones sort of wear off? It sounds like you are using romantic love to distract you from some underlying issue like depression or anxiety. It can also be that you could be getting high off romantic love. It's like being in love with love. You go from person to person anybody that helps you feel love. |
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Post by forumposter on Oct 16, 2018 9:23:35 GMT -8
With that theory, does it matter if they're a lookalike or not? Because, one of them was a lookalike they were like a twin, or a brother or a sister.
But the other poas had some similarities, but were not lookalikes.
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