RoseNadler
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Post by RoseNadler on Jun 24, 2019 16:00:44 GMT -8
My bf, L., went to lie down in the other room, and it’s only 7:30 PM. Sometimes he does that. I’ve never liked it. I always worry that something is really wrong. (And he’s been doing this for years; he did it before our trouble started.)
But I know if I go in there and ask, he’ll just tell me nothing’s wrong and continue to just lie still.
If I could change one thing about him, this would be it.
This is one of those things about him that I just have to accept and live with. The serenity prayer says “grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.” This is a good time to remember that.
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Post by Namaste on Jun 24, 2019 16:33:15 GMT -8
My bf, L., went to lie down in the other room, and it’s only 7:30 PM. Sometimes he does that. I’ve never liked it. I always worry that something is really wrong. (And he’s been doing this for years; he did it before our trouble started.) But I know if I go in there and ask, he’ll just tell me nothing’s wrong and continue to just lie still. If I could change one thing about him, this would be it. This is one of those things about him that I just have to accept and live with. The serenity prayer says “grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.” This is a good time to remember that. This blew my mind. Let me reassure you. I adore my husband, but I have always been a loner and I go into the other room to pray and rest. I need a lot of alone time to feel good. That is just the way some people are. I like silence and my husband Frank likes music and television. He is like a furnace and it is uncomfortable cuddling. We are different and yet we spend a lot of quality time together. If this is all he does then he is not necessarily an avoidant. Sometimes love addicts like yourself need more than is normal. Frank and I decided to stay together despite our differences, but if your partner's need for space in unbearable then you are not compatible. Thanks for sharing this very common occurrence. |
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Post by RoseNadler on Jun 24, 2019 16:42:46 GMT -8
Namaste, I think this is more about my anxiety disorder than anything else.
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Post by RoseNadler on Aug 20, 2019 8:57:49 GMT -8
My bf has a sinus headache this morning, so he was lying down on the bed just being quiet.
Of course, my anxiety kicked in and thought he HAD to be having bad thoughts about me.
I went in and asked him if he was all right. That’s when he told me about the sinus headache.
But my anxiety had been triggered, and I cried and prayed in the car all the way to work while listening to some Louise L. Hay affirmations.
I’m coming out the other side of this little freak-out. But God, how I wish I didn’t have them at all. Why can’t I be normal? Why did I have to have an anxiety disorder?
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“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it elsewhere." Buddha