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Post by koji on Aug 26, 2019 15:39:46 GMT -8
Hi
In this forum, there are many sufferers. Some are experienced tutors. I am afraid that they may be judgemental and teach me a lot. I am ashamed that I met PoA after a while in a bar. I dared to court her because I wanted her reaction. Her reaction is “I do and will do” when I asked her if she still loved me and wanted to marry me. Next day, I sent a message with a plan of travel together to her home country. After saying it’s good, she ignored all my messages, saying she’s too busy working. Well. I did it again. The all day, I felt terribely uncomfortable and deleted her account from my phone again.
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Post by RoseNadler on Aug 27, 2019 1:45:32 GMT -8
Koji,
It’s OK. You had a slip. You made a mistake. This happens to everybody.
It sounds like you are aware that this was a mistake. It sounds like you learned something. What did you learn?
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Post by Sexlessw on Aug 28, 2019 3:19:39 GMT -8
Koji:
She's got you on her hook. You've been here before with her. Same stuff, different day.
It was a slip up. You've been feeling lonely and wanting to have sex lately. Therefore, when you re-engaged with her, your addict brain kicked in. These things happen.
You did the right thing by deleting her information from your phone. She's probably on to her next mark right now, doing all the future faking she can.
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Post by koji on Aug 31, 2019 13:58:43 GMT -8
I broke my family. I was very sad in my family my childhood because my elder brother had mental illness and my parents had to take care of him more. That’s why I got married before I became 30 and made my own family. Got one son and one daughter. Could my kids to my parents. However, I had affairs over and over and now I left my own family. I was sad in my childhood. So I had my own family but I broke my family. What I am doing right now? What do I really want?
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Post by Sexlessw on Sept 1, 2019 12:12:12 GMT -8
Koji:
Have you tried reaching out to your son and daughter? In a non-judgemental way. "Hi son, hi daughter, how are you guys? Do you want to get together with me for a chit-chat?"
Start small, work your way up.
It's up to you to figure out your wants - find out your needs first.
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Post by koji on Sept 2, 2019 11:45:26 GMT -8
They ignore my message.
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Post by Sexlessw on Sept 8, 2019 4:21:12 GMT -8
Koji: I understand. Obviously, if they don't want to hear from you, then you have to hear the sound of their silence. That stinks. 
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