Post by in33dh3lp on Sept 27, 2019 10:57:38 GMT -8
So my son’s father passed away yesterday. He texted me telling me I could tell our son that grandpa did not make it. That’s all he said in the text.. I feel like it was him more telling me because he wanted to talk about it. Main reason why I feel that is true is that our son is 4 years old. And death is something a 4 year old will understand.
I don’t know if my “theory” is true or not. I just said ok to his text, following the no contact rule unless it has to do with our child. But it’s hard not to want to reach out to him. I know he is hurting right now and I want to be there for him in so many ways. As a friend because that’s how we started, as the mother of his child, and more.
I guess it comes down to the more because I was supposed to be the one there for him.
It's difficult to NOT want to "be with somebody" when an important person has died in their life. Keep in mind that there are other people in his life who will be helping him through his grief.
You did the right thing by saying "Okay" to his text. Of course, you could always send a sympathy card to him and his mother.
He's going to be going through a rough patch right now, but since you need to maintain YOUR space and YOUR healing, it's a rough patch he will be navigating (like we all do) with the help of OTHER people in his life - and himself.