Post by Namaste on Nov 9, 2019 7:36:01 GMT -8
I am having an emotional affair with a married man. See definition below. I am Asexual so for me it is not about sex or passion. I just found myself a widow and started confiding in this man with whom I have a lot in common. I think he is in love with me but I do not know if it physical or just emotional for him. I feel like I am in a Triangle and want to stop but I am having a hard time letting go. I get more out of our talks than I do with my therapist.
I am an avoidant and an emotional affair suits me. But I know it is wrong because it interferes with his relationship with his wife. It is just hard to give up because I have been searching for emotional intimacy all my life and this is the first time I have found it. I loved my husband but he was very quiet and did not like to talk about his feelings.
I have considered the fact that I am attracted this relationship to avoid grieving my husband but it really started before he died.
I would like some advice on this matter. Thanks.
Definition . . .
The term often describes a bond between two people that mimics the closeness and emotional intimacy of a romantic relationship while never being physically consummated. An emotional affair is sometimes referred to as an affair of the heart. An emotional affair may emerge from a friendship, and progress toward greater levels of personal intimacy and attachment. What distinguishes an emotional affair from a friendship is the assumption of emotional roles between the two participants that mimic of those of an actual relationship - with regards to confiding personal information and turning to the other person during moments of vulnerability or need.