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Post by Susan Peabody on Jan 11, 2020 17:03:37 GMT -8
Saturday Night Live
I am putting this in the recovery section, rather than the withdrawal section, because it is an important part of recovery to learn to be in solitude for short time. When I was growing up Saturday was date night. So even I am past feeling bad when I am alone on Saturday, there is a twinge or two now that my husband has passed away. This thread it to share with each other about how we feel on Saturday night when we are alone and what we do. It is 6:00 and before I eat dinner and turn on the television I thought I would reach out. Lucas says he is alone tonight. Reaching out to help others is my major way to feel good so I do it a lot. What are you doing tonight?
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Post by BunnyEars on Jan 12, 2020 8:47:12 GMT -8
Out with friends, a charity event, dinner (an expensive meal I had no appetite to eat), karaoke bar. It wasn't a great night for me.
I was honest with my bestie last night that I'm having a hard time lately. She's not very nurturing with emotional stuff, but I just wanted to tell someone IRL. She was like, "there, there." Lol. I love her, but she's not great for this sort of thing.
My other friend, I haven't known her as long and didn't want to expose myself, but I did tell her I was taking an antidepressant that makes me lose my appetite. She's the one who introduced me to the EU woman I last dated, and we didn't talk about that specifically, but she did mention that friend and some drama she caused earlier this week at a party. Hard to hear about her in a way, but then, I think maybe I dodged a bullet there.
I had one very hard moment watching this really cute lesbian couple at the karaoke bar. My envy spilled over I had to suck the tears back up into my eyeballs.
I had one really lovely moment where I was singing a Duran Duran song and everyone I knew (I'm a regular at this bar) jumped up and stage and danced along.
That was my Sat night
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Post by lucaszen on Jan 12, 2020 8:56:04 GMT -8
Thanks Susannah for starting this thread... it's really nice to read shares from others like me... yes indeed, a very quiet saturday night for me... I spent it in meditation and reading, and generally hving some quiet time with God... I do feel loneliness, but I also feel I am getting stronger and not avoiding thevdifficult feelings that I have been avoiding for... well.. my whole life until now... feeling very grateful for you guys and for this forum  Hugs, Lucas
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Post by loveanimals on Jan 19, 2020 8:30:40 GMT -8
I'm actually relived that I don't go out on Saturday. Men do ask me to, but I'm usually very tired now that I'm over 40! Plus many times I have long tennis matches to recover from that day.
Last night I read a book and did communicate with one man via text. I was in my pajamas from 3pm on, and had no inkling to want to go out.
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Post by sexlessw on Feb 2, 2020 12:41:29 GMT -8
Love Animals - why you geriatric gal you! You're just too darned old to go out! (I am writing with humor here!)
The Cat Stevens song comes to mind, "It's Saturday and I ain't got nobody. I've got some money 'cause I just got paid. How I wish I had someone to talk to - I'm in an awful mess" [excuse the last line - I took that one from memory]
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