RoseNadler
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Post by RoseNadler on Feb 8, 2020 10:04:58 GMT -8
I know these are recovery dreams.
1) In this dream, I’m very attracted to a much younger man - who is also married, has kids and is distantly related to me. But I think before acting. I realize that making a move in this direction would be a terrible mistake. So I let go of my crush...get over my crush...and end up being healthy platonic friends with the whole family.
2) In this dream, my boss is not quite hitting on me...he’s doing things that are nicer than you would normally do for a coworker/subordinate, but nothing that could be considered romantic or sexual. It makes me uncomfortable, but I’m afraid if I say anything, it will turn out that I misinterpreted his behavior and he really was just being nice.
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Post by RoseNadler on Mar 2, 2022 7:31:15 GMT -8
Resurrecting this old thread, because I had a very interesting dream last night.
As you may or may not know, I am a Lostie (person who is totally into the 2000s TV show, “LOST.”)
In this dream I was Kate, and (as in the show) I got involved with Sawyer (hot “bad boy” type.) Unlike in the show, Sawyer turned out to be a player - hitting on every woman he could find. I (as Kate) realized Sawyer was a player, gave up on him, did not obsess about him, and moved on.
The next guy I (as Kate) was involved with was not a character who was actually in the show; I guess my mind manufactured him. He was starting things with me, and I was interested. Then I found out he was married.
Once again, I (as Kate) handled it in a healthy way - stopped responding to him, gave up on him, did not obsess about it, and moved on.
Weird, huh? I think that was a recovery dream.
When the show was on, I would fantasize about being Kate - she’s young and beautiful and adventurous, AND she gets to make out with the two hottest guys on the show (both of whom are guys that a LA should avoid at all costs.)
I even used “LostKate” as my first user name here. Then I decided I didn’t want to be Kate. Her life is crazy and unstable and filled with dysfunctional people. I decided I’d rather be Rose Nadler. She’s an older woman, happily married to a man who adores her; and no discernable addictions. She DOES have problems - cancer, possibly terminal. But she is so calm and at peace with everything. I decided I’d like to have that degree of serenity. Hence the change in my user name.
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Post by RoseNadler on Mar 28, 2022 9:53:07 GMT -8
I had another weird recovery dream last night.
In this dream, I was with a former POA, and noticing and feeling that he is an attractive man.
But. It’s like my brain was awake and alive. My brain was saying things like, “He’s married,” and “If he cheats on his wife, he will probably cheat on you.” I observed him interacting with another woman. AND — I decided at that point to step away.
And the best part? I didn’t even feel any pain or regret over turning away from him and the temptation.
Recovery dreams are great. They tell me that I’m really taking this wisdom in, on a subconscious level.
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Post by Susan Peabody on Mar 28, 2022 13:07:44 GMT -8
What a great recovery dream . . .
Last week I told an old friend that we were no longer compatible because he was picking on me a lot. I threw in the opinion that he was pushing me away out of fear as we were really getting close. I was thrilled that there was no withdrawal and that I have done the recovery thing.
The next day he called and said I was right, and he was sorry. He asked if he could have one more chance as he could not see his life without me. I was flattered and decided to try working on the relationship--ONCE. The question is will he follow-through. I don't know, but I will not give him a second chance. If he does not change, I will end the relationship for good. It FEELS so good to not be a slave to relationships anymore.
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Post by RoseNadler on Mar 29, 2022 7:32:30 GMT -8
One more chance is good - that means you’re flexible and forgiving.
If you have to do “one more chance” more than one time - that sounds like a problem.
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