Post by sarahsmile on Feb 9, 2020 17:06:51 GMT -8
Hello! I am so glad I found this site! I've been divorced for 1 1/2 years now after a long 21 year relationship. I was in an emotionally abusive, non-loving, no sex marriage. I found an old fling from college days on facebook who lives in another city and we started flirting via text and it grew to sexting in a very short time, 1 month. I decided I would be better off with my new found love than stay in my marriage, got divorced short 3 mo later.Within 2 weeks, the man from another city ghosted me and wouldn't return my calls. I was devastated. I decided to wait for him to make sure he just needed some time, and I actually needed to be alone for a bit as well, isn't that what everyone always says? 1 1/2 years later after numerous attempts to get this city boy to tell me he is ready, he bails again after small snipits of hopeful texts and messages of how he longed for me. I finally decided it was time to date 2 months ago, maybe he will get jealous and see what he is missing.?
Yeah, not the case.
I get on Tinder at the ripe old age of 58 and the first guy that comes along tells me I am beautiful and he cannot get enough of my images, he has to meet me now. We decide to meet and ended up sleeping together the first night. It had been 2 years since I've had sex, so I was very open to this idea. What I didn't count on was how fast my heart wanted him in my life. I wanted to talk everyday and know everything about him. Within 2 weeks he tells me he is getting back with a girl he knew earlier and my heart was broken. I couldn't believe he would leave me and I cried all day.
The next story is about fake profiles and this just makes me sick that there are predators all over the world preying on women and men's emotions; trying to get their victim to fall in love without ever even meeting all to steal, mostly money; huge amounts of money are stolen this way daily.
I figured out my first catfisher within 2 days because I was going through profiles and saw the same face with a different name, age and story. I google reversed the image and busted this guy. So I thought I was pretty savy.
Next thing I know I had the more advanced scammer. His story was more believable and I was in such a crazed state of mind, I thought it was real. In my gut, I felt there were some red flags, but my heart didn't want to listen. This was true love and romance. This is why I got divorced. This is what I have been waiting for my whole life. This went on for a month. He even sent me dreams he had of me that sounded like a sex scene that came out of a romance novel. What tipped me off was when he asked me if I knew about bit coins... My heart sunk. I still didn't want to believe it though so I called him out on it and he still denied. I ended up purchasing a more advanced search engine for catfishing and low and behold this guy stole the images of a well known author and personal consultant that was on utube. He still denied it, then called me an ugly woman. oooouch!!
I was so devastated by all this, I cried so hard for 2 days. How could this happen to me.? Then I got back on line and found my next victim on Tinder. A cop, super cute and dreamy and we talked the first evening we met and made plans to go to dinner the next day. We ended up kissing and making out and it was great. I said to myself, go slow make this last. I told him I liked texting and so he texted me every morning and evening and sometimes he would say "wanna talk". and we would for an hour at least. This is when I realized I was falling into really old habits of when I was a teenager. I longed for his texts. Everytime my phone would bing, my heart would leap and I had to see if it was him. If it was "YESSSS" if not, my mood and my self esteem would plummet. Good god, what has happened to me? long story short, it only lasted 2 weeks and I am still getting over this one and its been 2 more weeks. I cry every day, every night and I've lost the usual vibrant bubbly personality everyone loves about me. I am such a mess. I actually thought of suicide as to just get this over with, but I am too smart for that and I went to a therapist. But she is not the one to tell me about this LOVE ADDICTS Anom. I found it on my own and I am hoping there is still help for this girl who is addicted to love and romance and always has been, as far back as I can remember.
Is there hope for me?
(sorry this is so long, I needed to write this out to see it. I am admitting I have a problem and I really know I can learn new things still.)
Please help
Sarahsmile
Yeah, not the case.
I get on Tinder at the ripe old age of 58 and the first guy that comes along tells me I am beautiful and he cannot get enough of my images, he has to meet me now. We decide to meet and ended up sleeping together the first night. It had been 2 years since I've had sex, so I was very open to this idea. What I didn't count on was how fast my heart wanted him in my life. I wanted to talk everyday and know everything about him. Within 2 weeks he tells me he is getting back with a girl he knew earlier and my heart was broken. I couldn't believe he would leave me and I cried all day.
The next story is about fake profiles and this just makes me sick that there are predators all over the world preying on women and men's emotions; trying to get their victim to fall in love without ever even meeting all to steal, mostly money; huge amounts of money are stolen this way daily.
I figured out my first catfisher within 2 days because I was going through profiles and saw the same face with a different name, age and story. I google reversed the image and busted this guy. So I thought I was pretty savy.
Next thing I know I had the more advanced scammer. His story was more believable and I was in such a crazed state of mind, I thought it was real. In my gut, I felt there were some red flags, but my heart didn't want to listen. This was true love and romance. This is why I got divorced. This is what I have been waiting for my whole life. This went on for a month. He even sent me dreams he had of me that sounded like a sex scene that came out of a romance novel. What tipped me off was when he asked me if I knew about bit coins... My heart sunk. I still didn't want to believe it though so I called him out on it and he still denied. I ended up purchasing a more advanced search engine for catfishing and low and behold this guy stole the images of a well known author and personal consultant that was on utube. He still denied it, then called me an ugly woman. oooouch!!
I was so devastated by all this, I cried so hard for 2 days. How could this happen to me.? Then I got back on line and found my next victim on Tinder. A cop, super cute and dreamy and we talked the first evening we met and made plans to go to dinner the next day. We ended up kissing and making out and it was great. I said to myself, go slow make this last. I told him I liked texting and so he texted me every morning and evening and sometimes he would say "wanna talk". and we would for an hour at least. This is when I realized I was falling into really old habits of when I was a teenager. I longed for his texts. Everytime my phone would bing, my heart would leap and I had to see if it was him. If it was "YESSSS" if not, my mood and my self esteem would plummet. Good god, what has happened to me? long story short, it only lasted 2 weeks and I am still getting over this one and its been 2 more weeks. I cry every day, every night and I've lost the usual vibrant bubbly personality everyone loves about me. I am such a mess. I actually thought of suicide as to just get this over with, but I am too smart for that and I went to a therapist. But she is not the one to tell me about this LOVE ADDICTS Anom. I found it on my own and I am hoping there is still help for this girl who is addicted to love and romance and always has been, as far back as I can remember.
Is there hope for me?
(sorry this is so long, I needed to write this out to see it. I am admitting I have a problem and I really know I can learn new things still.)
Please help
Sarahsmile
