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Step 8
Jun 18, 2020 12:24:07 GMT -8
Post by Susan Peabody on Jun 18, 2020 12:24:07 GMT -8
Eighth Step Prayer
Higher Power,
I ask Your help in making my list of all those I have harmed.
I will take responsibility for my mistakes and
Be forgiving to others as You are forgiving to me.
Grant me the willingness to begin my restitution.
This I pray.
Attachments:LAA Step 8 New.doc (28.5 KB)
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lianita24
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Russian Liaison
Posts: 130
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Post by lianita24 on Dec 8, 2021 7:14:41 GMT -8
The fried of mine D. asked me to post her life stories to the steps (I am going to Russian meetings too and I was need to translate it).
Her story:
The Eighth Step is a step of the truth. I am not at all a white fluffy lamb who loved everyone and did not want anyone to be hurt. I was an aggressor, a persecutor of men. I treated my loved ones badly, not paying them enough attention (the first of all, this was my son), because I have been in love dependence. My damage to myself was also strong - I destroyed my body and betrayed my soul in pursuit of the next man. This step dotted the i's. I saw what I was doing, whom and how I offended, it was difficult to accept, to write down. I had so big resistance.
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Post by gemini on Dec 14, 2021 11:44:31 GMT -8
The eighth step is confronting my ego and fears. This was a difficult step because the moment of truth arrived and there is no more hiding, running, and turning away from my what consumes me (my addiction). I first forgive myself and then I learned to let go and ask forgiveness from others. I contacted one of my qualifiers and apologized for my toxic behaviors. I stopped contact with another qualifier who was re-activating my addictions. I let him go and no longer pursued. I no longer succumb to my love addiction. I made a conscious choice to prioritized my well-being rather than sprial down to my obsessive and compulsiv LOVE addiction. Instead, I developed awareness that it will not serve me any good. With that acceptance, I freely let go of those who no longer serve me.
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Cheryl
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Step 8
Jul 1, 2022 10:04:02 GMT -8
Post by Cheryl on Jul 1, 2022 10:04:02 GMT -8
Step Eight: Made a list of all persons we [have] harmed and [become] willing to make amends to them all. It's not likely I will be doing this. Really, the person I have harmed the most is me. I am now making amends to me and helping me heal and change and grow. 1. I have apologized to my children more times than I know. They are so loving, and we have such a close bond now. Making amends in the past with them was a smart move. I have never had pride when it comes to them. 2. I have apologized to my mother more times than I ever should have, and she's never, ever wanted to talk to me about the past...ever. So, I dropped that. I don't speak to her anymore. I call my grandmother when my mother is not home..., which reminds me. (I forgot to call her back earlier.) 3. My father is dead, and there's really no one else in my family. 4. As far as the others, which are all men, they can all go jump off a bridge. They were just as toxic as me, and with the stuff they pulled, I ain't going there. My current husband and I have just gone through a huge rift where I mentioned once again my codependency, yet not apologetically. I can't always be sorry for my "stuff," especially if he's not sorry for his stuff. I just mentioned that I was changing that, doing different things, and that he'd probably notice. Either way, I don't care. I know this doesn't sound humble, but for once in my life, I'm sticking up for me. No more codependency, more loving myself and being selfish, and more allowing others to live their lives without comment from me. Ha ha. The world definitely needs more of that! In the Step 8 handout, it states, "You are no longer a poor little girl in need of love and attention, who wants someone outside of her to give her love and who does almost anything to get it." I am so glad!! I didn't realize I was doing this, and now that I do, I want so much to just love on her, lift her up, and stop hurting her by putting others in front of her. I am "making amends to myself," as the latter part of Step 8 mentions. My girl, my inner children, my "self," all need me. It's so weird to think that I have been giving her away all these years!!! I just let people use her and manipulate her and abandon and reject her...I mean, what a horrible person I was to myself! No more! I am now no longer that person. I'm working on my boundaries, living them as much as possible every day, counting my successes, being patient with myself, trying to reign in my mouth when I can, and doing everything possible to enjoy my life, have fun, and just smile.  |
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Step 8
Aug 2, 2022 14:32:20 GMT -8
Post by Linda S. on Aug 2, 2022 14:32:20 GMT -8
LAA Step 8 Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. The Sunday Step Study Meeting has just finished studying Step 7, and now we will move on to Step 8 on 7th August. Whilst it is helpful to attend all sessions (we complete a Step a month over the year), it is not essential; you can join us at any time. We use the LAA Step Guide and supplement it with other resources helpful to understanding and working the steps, heavily drawing on members' experience, strength and hope. We are not working the Steps as a group, but are discussing the LAA questions from the step work. Some find a sponsor, decide to work together with another member, or co-sponsor each other, making connections through attending these meetings. We hope you will join us, at whatever stage of the journey you are on.
Eighth Step Prayer Higher Power, I ask Your help in making my list of all those I have harmed. I will take responsibility for my mistakes and Be forgiving to others as You are forgiving to me. Grant me the willingness to begin my restitution. This I pray.
Step Study Meeting Every Sunday Meeting lasts 90 minutes 11.00 a.m./11.00 Pacific Time / 2.00 p.m./14.00 Eastern Time Meeting ID: 895 1971 5053 Passcode: 413263 Time Zone Converter
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Step 8
Nov 12, 2022 6:55:14 GMT -8
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Post by powerless on Nov 12, 2022 6:55:14 GMT -8
The eighth step is confronting my ego and fears. This was a difficult step because the moment of truth arrived and there is no more hiding, running, and turning away from my what consumes me (my addiction). I first forgive myself and then I learned to let go and ask forgiveness from others. I contacted one of my qualifiers and apologized for my toxic behaviors. I stopped contact with another qualifier who was re-activating my addictions. I let him go and no longer pursued. I no longer succumb to my love addiction. I made a conscious choice to prioritized my well-being rather than sprial down to my obsessive and compulsiv LOVE addiction. Instead, I developed awareness that it will not serve me any good. With that acceptance, I freely let go of those who no longer serve me. |
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