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Step 9
Jun 18, 2020 12:38:44 GMT -8
Post by Susan Peabody on Jun 18, 2020 12:38:44 GMT -8
Ninth Step Prayer
Higher Power,
I pray for the right attitude to make my amends,
Being ever mindful not to harm others in the process.
I ask for Your guidance in making indirect amends.
Most important, I will continue to make amends
By staying abstinent, helping others and
Growing in spiritual progress.
Attachments:LAA Step 9 New.doc (30.5 KB)
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lianita24
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Russian Liaison
Posts: 130
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Post by lianita24 on Dec 8, 2021 7:15:40 GMT -8
The fried of mine D. asked me to post her life stories to the steps (I am going to Russian meetings too and I was need to translate it).
Her story:
The Ninth Step. I took this step once, by some action, but basically, this step is a step on ongoing basis for me. The most important reimbursement to all people and to me is to continue my recovery according to the Program. I compensate to my son for the damage every day, I ask God to give more love in my heart to me myself and to him. For men, in whom I saw only a source of benefits (money, attention, emotions, time, support and other resources), I compensate with an honest and respectful attitude towards everyone I meet on the way. I compensate to myself by taking care of my soul and body. Step 9 is serving to people, the world in the broadest sense of the word, carrying the message of recovery, bearing love and the constant question "how can I be useful."
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Cheryl
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Post by Cheryl on Jul 10, 2022 7:15:08 GMT -8
The Ninth step is one I feel like I've done already but just maybe not the way it is supposed to be done. This past week, I made a "direct amend" with my husband and told him I was sorry I had been acting co-dependent and offered some examples. A while back (like 20 years ago) I wrote my mother a "letter" of amends by email, to which she never responded because her "heart couldn't take it" or something. I tried verbally, too, many times, and I finally gave up with her in March of this year. I have written in my journal both "letters" and "spiritual" amends. I write to people who are gone, like my dad, and to people who I couldn't write to currently, like the kids' dad. That would just give him a way to make me feel embarrassed. Plus, I don't want to talk to him. I have done ceremonies with fire and notes, as well as other small ceremonies to cut ties with people at different stages of my life. I will likely do this soon, again, but with codependency as the topic, rather than cutting ties, specifically. The reason is because I never really realized how I was contributing to the turmoil. I am currently "living amends" because I am actively trying to stop the behaviors I have listed over and over, including and not limited to people-pleasing, oversharing, controlling, nagging, needing, not loving myself, being a know-it-all, and so on. I'm not the only problem, but I can see how these behaviors are not attractive. I am not sure about the "financial amend" one. I don't owe anyone any money, never stole money or conned anyone, so... However, I sure have been conned before!! I'm going to spend some time in my journal on the whole "dead" amends and doing some "spiritual" amends as well, all the while keeping behaviors right in the forefront of things I want to stop doing or change.  These are also on my list because it's important to not idealize or have some false sense of identity: 1. It is not my job to fix other people. 2. It is not my job to solve their problems. 3. It is not my job to make others happy with me. 4. It is not my job to relieve others of their anger. I need to post this on my wall to read each day when I enter and leave my room. |
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