Post by Susan Peabody on Aug 25, 2020 11:55:18 GMT -8
If you think you might be a love addict, go to the section for newcomers and tell us a little bit about yourself. Then tell us how we can help you. While waiting for a response, educate yourself by reading all the threads and posts of people who have come before you.
Recovery is a step by step process . . .
1. Admit you have a problem to yourself and others.
2. Avoid putting all the blame on your PoA (Person of Addiction).
3. Reach out for help.
4. Work the 12-Steps of recovery, including an inventory the details of your addiction so you know exactly what has to be changed. (1st and 4th Steps)
5. Stay single for a period of time and work on yourself.
6. Educate yourself about addiction. Read or listen to books.
7. Commit to someone and yourself to begin changing how you think and behave about romantic love and relationships.
8. Work on building your self-esteem.
9. Keep a journal.
10. Deal with underlying issues like depression, anxiety and wounds from childhood. You cannot do this alone.
11. Validate your progress and stay optimistic about your recovery.
12. If you have a slip get right back into recovery. Do not be embarrassed. Love addicts always take two steps forward and two steps back because we are not talking about substance abuse we are talking about love which has its roots in childhood. It is our most basic need to be loved. We just need to start looking in the right places.
From Alcoholics Anonymous
"We shall be with you in the Fellowship of the Spirit, and you will surely meet some of us as you trudge the Road of Happy Destiny. May God bless you and keep you until then.”
Post by Susan Peabody on Sept 19, 2020 10:49:43 GMT -8
I agree that therapy is very important, but it is secondary to having a Higher Power and working the steps. All three go hand in hand. There is a kind of therapy that combines spiritual recovery with psychology and that is transpersonal psychology.
I found therapy useful for understanding what when wrong and why I was still in so much pain. I then turned to God for healing. Talking is just one part of processing our emotions.
For therapy to work, you must have the right therapist. I have been in and out of therapy for 52 years. I really helped me when I analyzed my dreams and Freudian slips. I took what I learned to God.
Therapy is a tool used by God to help us heal, but ultimately we must turn our will and our life over to God to complete the process of recovery.