RoseNadler
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Post by RoseNadler on Sept 12, 2021 7:08:45 GMT -8
I made a mistake and our cat got hurt, and now my boyfriend is angry at me. The cat is being well cared for now. I feel guilty and scared. What if L. never forgives me for this? What if he dumps me?
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Post by Susan Peabody on Sept 12, 2021 8:10:48 GMT -8
I made a mistake and our cat got hurt, and now my boyfriend is angry at me. The cat is being well cared for now. I feel guilty and scared. What if L. never forgives me for this? What if he dumps me? Your inner child is scared. Your adult knows it was unintentional. Making mistakes is being human. Don't let the remorse get toxic and affect your self-esteem. |
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Post by RoseNadler on Sept 13, 2021 6:58:01 GMT -8
My anxiety and fear of abandonment really went off the charts around this incident. It brought up a whole lot of fear and pain from my childhood. It occurred to me that maybe fear of loss and abandonment is my deepest, biggest problem - that led to my LA.
When I have these spells, I really do feel like a little kid, terrified that Mommy or Daddy is going to stay angry at me forever. It knocks me back in time 50 years. Luckily, my inner adult is getting stronger….better at making itself heard; better at encouraging me to do the ordinary, practical things of my daily routine.
The anxiety was at its absolute worst yesterday. It’s still hovering right below the surface. But I’m doing my regular routine including spiritual and self-help work. I think that will help.
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