Post by annaliza1981 on Sept 15, 2021 10:02:59 GMT -8
Good afternoon, this is my second thread in here. I have a question how does one handle the silent treatment? I grew up being given that treatment by my mom for days, weeks and etc. Ironically, my partner gives me the same treatment. How does this happen? How or what steps can I take I feel abandonment issues, anxiety and so on when given this treatment. Thank you.
Post by Susan Peabody on Sept 16, 2021 8:35:27 GMT -8
The silent treatment is a controlling technique. Someone is trying to control you. It is traumatic and will bring out your inner child who was once abandoned. The best way to handle it is to talk to your inner child, ignore the person giving you the silent treatment, pray for strength and then, if possible, talk to the person when they come around about what a poor method of communication it is.
I was given the silent treatment by my mother when I was a child. It felt awful because as a child I did not understand it and it scared me. It feels threatening on a very basic life and death level because it is exclusion from the caretaker and for an young animal (which we are) that means death because they can not survive on their own. What I do now if anybody gives me silent treatment is telling my inner children what date and year it is and that there is a grownup now taking care of them (me) so they do not have to be scared anymore. I do not react to silent treatment in any way,I do not reach out to the person. That way their form of punishment does not have the effect they are looking for
Post by Susan Peabody on Oct 4, 2021 8:40:43 GMT -8
If someone in your life is giving you the silent treatment, especially after knowing how much it hurts you, then you are with the wrong person. Until you are able to move on ignore the person, comfort your inner child, talk to a friend and especially talk to God and feel the intimacy with him that you are not getting form this person.