If you hear yourself saying, "lt will be different this time," while you are considering using, you are in big trouble. You are headed for a terrible relapse. Warning! It will not be different this time. If you pick up the first one, you will have the same consequences, and worse. If you hear yourself saying, "lt will be different this time," while you are considering allowing a character defect to cause you to misbehave, you are also in big trouble. Pause, before you let anger or some other negative emotion cause you to act out.
To do: Think back to every time you picked up the first one, and remember how the first one was not the last one. Remember how you picked up again when a feeling, person, place, or situation triggered you. Remember even the "little" consequences like hiding your drug of choice, sneaking around to get it, and lying about doing it. Remember how you smelled after using and how you wasted time and money dealing with using. Remember how you ended up in dangerous places. Remember how your drug did not work after the first time it buzzed you. Remember how you later tried to get high later that same day when you promised yourself you would not use again. Remember how you had to use again just to avoid feeling sick. Remember how you tried to substitute drugs you thought were not as harmful and how they did not make you feel any better either. Remember the days spent just trying to feel normal. What else can you remember that will prove that your use won't be different this time?
Post by RoseNadler on Oct 30, 2021 13:41:11 GMT -8
Excellent post. When you think about it, love addiction IS very much like drug use. You feel like you need it more than anything in the world. You feel like you’ll die without it. Then you use, and after awhile, it doesn’t give you the same “high” feelings anymore. And then there are the consequences of using.
Then you start to envy people who aren’t addicted, who can just have a life without things constantly blowing up in their faces. And then you (if you’re lucky) learn about ways to stop acting out and achieve some peace of mind.
What if….I could do Step Three BEFORE my life becomes a total disaster?