You have to stay vigilant

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You have to stay vigilant Dec 4, 2021 22:05:33 GMT -8 via mobile

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Post by RoseNadler on Dec 4, 2021 22:05:33 GMT -8

I got a text about an hour ago from a past POA (almost three years ago.) Since I deleted all my numbers and other information about him from my phone, I’m not totally, 100% sure it was him - but it sounded like him.

I was tempted to try to find out for sure who it was. But online reverse phone lookups always want you to buy a subscription, and I wasn’t going to spend money on this.

So, I deleted the text and reported it as junk.

My addict brain whispered to me, “He’s still thinking about you,” and tried to feel proud of that. Thank god my recovery mind is stronger now. My recovery mind knows that any contact with him is a bad idea.

What if….I could do Step Three BEFORE my life becomes a total disaster?

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You have to stay vigilant Dec 5, 2021 9:22:41 GMT -8 RoseNadler and anaddict like this

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Post by Susan Peabody on Dec 5, 2021 9:22:41 GMT -8

Yes . . . love addiction and codependency are cunning, baffling and insidious. It lies in wait for us to take over in a weak moment. Our recovery, in my opinion, is as strong as our relationship with our Higher Power.

Story . . . I had been in recovery for about a year when I started to ruminate about my Qualifier. I had left my job to recover and was doing no contact. When I was obsessed with him, I had tried to kill myself, so this was a serious compulsion, and I was in danger. I picked up the phone to call him and a voice in my head said, "You don't have to do this." I was shocked but took this as a message from God.

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You have to stay vigilant Dec 5, 2021 12:30:23 GMT -8 via mobile

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Post by RoseNadler on Dec 5, 2021 12:30:23 GMT -8

This incident was interesting, because it started - as most of my self-inflicted problems do - with my curiosity.

“Don’t I want to know for sure who this is?”

I even briefly considered answering the text with, “Who is this?” But I decided against it. That would open up a whole can of worms, that I couldn’t be sure of putting back in the can.

Not worth it, to satisfy my curiosity.

Now I wish I had blocked the number.

What if….I could do Step Three BEFORE my life becomes a total disaster?

anaddict New Member Posts: 35	You have to stay vigilant Jan 1, 2022 2:20:31 GMT -8 via mobile RoseNadler and maryruth like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Back to Top Post by anaddict on Jan 1, 2022 2:20:31 GMT -8 "Curiosity killed the cat" is a saying I remember. It has gotten me into troubles before. Stay strong! And have a happy, sane and balanced 2022!

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