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Post by ready2learn on Jan 28, 2022 21:54:49 GMT -8
I found myself in a situation at work this week with someone at work where I got the sense he may have been flirting. It’s the same feeling I’ve felt with previous qualifiers. I know I need to set boundaries for myself whether he’s actually flirting or not but it’s driving me crazy! I really had to control my urges and impulses this week to not interact with him if I really didn’t need to. I don’t know if I’m reading the situation correctly or if I’m making it up in my head. My gut tells me to be careful but I don’t want to make up a whole situation in my head if it’s harmless interaction between coworkers.
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Post by Susan Peabody on Jan 29, 2022 9:14:27 GMT -8
I found myself in a situation at work this week with someone at work where I got the sense he may have been flirting. Realizing whether he is flirting or not is the easy part. The most important thing is whether it is just a flirtation or an invitation to get to know you better. If it is an invitation, is he available? Is it someone you want to get to know better? Are you compatible? Beware of men and women who flirt and have nothing else to offer. |
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Post by ready2learn on Jan 29, 2022 23:31:58 GMT -8
I have to be careful because I’m married. If it’s an invitation to get to know me, is that okay? My friends say it’s ok to have a professional relationship which I’ve had with other male coworkers but this one feels different. Should I completely stay away because I’m getting a vibe from him?
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Post by RoseNadler on Jan 30, 2022 8:23:09 GMT -8
My opinion only - based on my own experience. (I have a pretty strong love addiction, currently in remission - and have cheated on husbands and boyfriends.)
Take this opinion as an opinion, not as a fact.
Don’t get sucked in. This situation has been the start of a lot of trouble for me. I would emphasize the fact that you’re married, and try not to be alone with him. Having other people present is a good trouble-preventer.
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Post by Susan Peabody on Jan 30, 2022 9:11:34 GMT -8
I have to be careful because I’m married. If it’s an invitation to get to know me, is that okay? My friends say it’s ok to have a professional relationship which I’ve had with other male coworkers but this one feels different. Should I completely stay away because I’m getting a vibe from him? In LAA recovery means monogamy. No triangles. We recommend you ignore this flirtation even if it is an invitation. Triangles lead nowhere except to short-term pleasure followed by long-term pain. |
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