Hi I am glad to have found this program. I am 35 years clean and sober but this love addiction is more difficult for me to move on from. 4 years with someone, well I thought it was that, who is in another state. Ignored all the truths my intuition told me, and tried to get him to “choose” me because of how loving and supportive I had been to him, his life. I know he is not worthy of me, I don’t need him to be worthy yet the pain of withdrawal is great. The last couple of weeks have started to feel better but today all the pain and fear came rushing over me. I have not had contact in a couple of weeks and plan to not reach out but I am lost in the pain. Thank you for being here and listening.
Post by Susan Peabody on Feb 14, 2022 15:44:38 GMT -8
Welcome to LAA. You are in the right place to find a brighter tomorrow and new beginning. Scroll down on the home page of this board and find seventeen years of "experience, strength, and hope," from over 8,000 love addicts. Here are some simple instructions.
To recover, love addicts must change how they think and behave. Consider the following advice.
1. Honestly admit that you are a love addict.
2. Reach out for help whether it a meeting or the message board.
3. Get a sponsor or pair up with another recovering love addict (same gender as you).
4. Start working the steps. LAA has a Step Guide.
5. Stay optimistic.
6. Educate yourself about love addiction so you know exactly what has to be changed.
7. Stay connected even you are feeling depressed. This will avoid relapse.
8. Begin to "trudge road of happy destiny." (From the book of Alcoholics Anonymous, page 164)
Your happy destiny is not a place in the future. You are on it now with your fellow love addicts.