June Meeting Minutes

Some of the meetings hosts checked in and all is well.

We discussed the following three things.

Is love addiction a disorder or, as one of the members said, mis-information? Love addiction is a disorder. According to John Bradshaw it is a "thinking disorder." According to Robin Norwood it is disorder because it is progressive, there is no cure (just remission) and it is life-threatening. We know this because one of our esteemed members just took her own life.

Are labels helpful or harmful? There is great disagreement on this. When I identified myself as a "woman who loved to much," I was thrilled to finally know what was wrong with me. It was liberating. I could now seek out a solution because I was not alone. I have been ill for sometime with a neurological disorder and I finally got my diagnosis last week. Now the doctor knows how to treat it. I think labels are helpful.

Why do we use "we" and not "I"? This tradition goes back to our sister program A.A. Their steps, as well as ours, begin with the words we to foster a sense of community rather than have people feel as if they are in isolation. As they say in A.A., this is a we program. We are not alone. We need each other to recover.