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Post by Susan Peabody on Aug 29, 2022 7:00:46 GMT -8
What are some of the things you regret doing because of low self-esteem? True confessions . . . After losing my virginity in a date rape, I felt so bad about myself that I became promiscuous. Because I felt so worthless, I got talked into being a prostitute by my boyfriend. Because I doubted my intelligence, I dropped out of college. Because I felt unworthy, I almost did not apply to college when I was ready to return. My therapist talked me into it. Because I felt inadequate, I did not use the teaching credential I had earned to teach. I became a secretary. I still struggle with self-worth and my inner child is constantly looking for validation. I have a recurring dream. I am auditing classes at UC Berkeley my first year out of high school. All of my friends are registered and are attending classes. I am auditing because I am afraid I cannot pass the finals and mid-terms. I feel sad that I will not get my diploma like the others. I wake up and remember that I did graduate with honors in 1978.
Turning it around . . .I now counsel date-rape victims. I forgave myself for being a prostitute and now counsel them. I graduated from UC Berkeley, Phi Beta Kappa (with honors) I started teaching adults at night which led to me becoming an author. I am starting to take care of myself and seeking validation from God. Attachments:
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Post by RoseNadler on Aug 30, 2022 6:33:52 GMT -8
What are some of the things I regret doing because of low self-esteem?
1–Cheating on every partner I’ve ever had. Yes, you read that right. I’m deeply ashamed of this. So far, I have been sober from any kind of cheating since March 2019.
2–Continuing to pursue men who made it clear that there was no future in this situation. Men who ignored me, men who only used me for sex, men who had tried to break up with me.
3–Messing around with married men.
4–Carelessly talking to other people about things that were private business between me and my husband or partner. I do believe in reaching out for help—but these days, only on a website like this, or a recovery group, or a professional. Not to any rando on the internet.
5–When I was younger: feeling jealous and resentful of people who had (what appeared to be) happy relationships. This did a lot of damage to my ability to make friends. I am very grateful that I have made a lot of progress in this area. When I start to envy someone, I remind myself that EVERYBODY has problems. Nobody has a perfect life. That person I envy because they seem to have their act together might be dealing with something very painful that I just can’t see.
6–Being so obsessively focused on my love life that I neglected the other parts of my life: education, career, friends and family.
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