Post by Susan Peabody on Sept 29, 2022 7:50:24 GMT -8
Remember . . .
Every relationship has a life span. Eventually, it ends whether it be early or late. Sometimes it sits on the shelf after its shelf life and spoils. Other times is goes on and only ends with death. But according to David Richo is his book, How to be an Adult we have to eventually face the fact that there are times in which we are alone. But loneliness is not the only option when we are alone. It can actually be an illusion because if we have a relationship with ourselves and our Higher Power loneliness does not have to destroy us or turn us into love addicts. We can accept our situation and wait for healthy companionship to come our way. My point is that we must always let go of relationships when the time is at hand and move on to something new.
Hi Susan, about alone time , I think it is essential to overcome the fear of it. First because it's a good thing to overcome all our fears and the mother of all our fears is the fear of being alone.
Not many people overcome this ancestral fear , not all of us find the opportunity to experience alone time in a positive and productive way.
I found myself alone some years ago and I was terrified. But slowly I learned to know my solitude, that means to know myself, I was in front of myself for the very first time and it was scaring but in the end I became a new person: stronger, healthier, much less addict to love, relathionships and friendship...
At some point I stopped being alone and restarted my relationship with my partner. All was different now, I was no more the same person and our relathionship changed for better.
One day you suggested a book called "From loneliness to solitude", I could never find it anywere and would like so much to read it...
The only way to overcome the fear of being alone is being alone. And often you have to have no other chance, otherwise you wouldn't find the courage and the strenght to be alone.
That's what happened to me some years ago. I had no other chance than experiencing being alone.
My family of origin was terrified by loneliness, so I inherited this huge fear and it was really hard to me to change.
Changing...again. I embraced changing once more. And I grew up as an adult finally...
Loneliness is something you go up. Solitude is something you choose. when you have learned how to abide it.