Chrissy
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Post by Chrissy on Jan 11, 2009 16:23:19 GMT -8
It is an act of irresponsible self indulgence to cite our childhood histories as excuses for any of our present behaviors, attitudes or qualities that are less than healthy.
The difficult circumstances and unhappy effects of those childhood years provide clues to the very conditions we are meant in this lifetime to experience, overcome, understand and forgive. [not excuses, but explanations. s.p.][/b][/color] [/center]
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Post by Judy on Jan 11, 2009 17:15:12 GMT -8
Thank you chrissy!! I have been thinking along those lines a great deal lately. Overcoming, understanding and forgiving are the true benefits of recovery.
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Post by LovingGracefully on Jan 11, 2009 22:15:26 GMT -8
What a concept! So, it was an intentional act that we were SUPPOSED to have all those awful things happen to us? Just so we can experience them? Learn from them? Overcome them?
I don't want to blame or wallow in what happened but I keep reading and hearing from my therapist that what happened back then is the reason I'm bleeding so badly now. I'm confused.
Am I reading this wrong? I must be.
LovingGracefully.
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Post by Chrissy on Jan 12, 2009 3:39:53 GMT -8
All I can say is from my experiences is that I did indeed have a very messed up childhood and I am sure it was a determining factor in my behaviors, I think the difference now is that I will no longer need to do those things and what Judy said you need to overcome, understand and forgive..
I am not sure it was intentional more along the lines of using it as a learning experience rather than let it define us and dictate how we live the rest of our lives...
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