Anger is one of the many profound effects life has on us. It's one of our emotions. And we're going to feel it when it comes our way -- or else repress it.
--Codependent No More
If I were working a good program, I wouldn't get angry.... If I were a good Christian, I wouldn't feel angry.... If I were really using my affirmations about how happy I am, I wouldn't be angry.... Those are old messages that seduce us into not feeling again. Anger is part of life. We need not dwell in it or seek it out, but we can't afford to ignore it.
In recovery, we learn we can shamelessly feel all our feelings, including anger, and still take responsibility for what we do when we feel angry. We don't have to let anger control us, but it surely will if we prevent ourselves from feeling it.
Being grateful, being positive, being healthy, does not mean we never feel angry. Being grateful, positive, and healthy means we feel angry when we need to.
Today, I will let myself be angry, if I need to. I can feel and release my emotions, including anger, constructively. I will be grateful for my anger and the things it is trying to show me. I can feel and accept all my emotions without shame, and I can take responsibility for my actions.
Post by Susan Peabody on Sept 11, 2022 10:47:28 GMT -8
Me too. Right now, I am trying to own it without going off on someone. I never have been one to stuff it. Sometimes I wish I could do not just to keep out of trouble. I discuss it with God and/or a friend. I have been angry so long it is hard to contain but I am working on it. Right now, I am angry at Putin.
I have very little control of my temper. The world is just going to have to deal with it or abandon me. Either way is fine by me.
This is exactly what happened in the last two important relationships. This time it will work out too. I like the way you accept the reality. I' m not sorry either. My anger towards my PoA was just. But the outcome was yhat I lost one person, that I wanted to have in my life as a result. So, the wish to be able to deal with it in a more constraint way is still there for me. I' ll have to ponder upon it.