if you're following the 12 step model of recovery then we make amends to people except when to do so would injure them or others. The AA big book specifically sites not sharing about affairs if we plan to change our behavior (a living amends). Recovery is not about confessions and repentance. It's about improving our behaviors.
That said, if the spouse were to find out and it were in the natural course of events, well then...per al anon we don't stop the crisis.
The fear I had of my ex-husband finding out about my affair is enough to keep me faithful to my current husband for life.
Last Edit: Nov 11, 2011 9:47:05 GMT -8 by happyberry