Post by presence on Feb 28, 2009 19:37:18 GMT -8
...when you are truly in need and have been for a long, long time.
I mean...if you've been on a desert island for months and you try and you over-eat immediately, you'll kill yourself...your digestive system can't stand the shock.But you are legitimately starving...so hopefully someone helps you reintroduce solid food slowly.
But what do you do when you've been starving for affection and love for a long time...how do you not come from a needy place?
People have needs. And I do believe people NEED love. And I do believe you can put yourself in situations when you are NOT getting enough from friends and family etc....even when the friends and family are there for you all the time.
But even when I felt totally supported in the friendship area (peole have moved etc)....I still had that deep ache for a partner...and I think that's God given. And it seems like that it would be normal for that ache to grow over years and years.
I don't respond to just ANYBODY I've gone for long periods of time (years) without anyone. (And it scares me that I don't know what it was about my POA two months ago that got to me) I even think that I'm might be way too picky. Anyway...I've said no a 100 times more than I've said yes.
But when I do think its time to say "yes"again, try again---How do you get un-needy when you are IN NEED...beforehand? When you've been legitimately lonely for a long time aren't you going to feel that NEED pretty deeply? How would you NOT be needy?
I mean, I know I can't binge after starving....but should I EVER have the opportunity again, how do I come from a healthy place after such a long time?
"Don't be needy" when you genuinely, legitimately need has always seemed like it called for me to be an actress or something.
Any thoughts?
Presence
I mean...if you've been on a desert island for months and you try and you over-eat immediately, you'll kill yourself...your digestive system can't stand the shock.But you are legitimately starving...so hopefully someone helps you reintroduce solid food slowly.
But what do you do when you've been starving for affection and love for a long time...how do you not come from a needy place?
People have needs. And I do believe people NEED love. And I do believe you can put yourself in situations when you are NOT getting enough from friends and family etc....even when the friends and family are there for you all the time.
But even when I felt totally supported in the friendship area (peole have moved etc)....I still had that deep ache for a partner...and I think that's God given. And it seems like that it would be normal for that ache to grow over years and years.
I don't respond to just ANYBODY I've gone for long periods of time (years) without anyone. (And it scares me that I don't know what it was about my POA two months ago that got to me) I even think that I'm might be way too picky. Anyway...I've said no a 100 times more than I've said yes.
But when I do think its time to say "yes"again, try again---How do you get un-needy when you are IN NEED...beforehand? When you've been legitimately lonely for a long time aren't you going to feel that NEED pretty deeply? How would you NOT be needy?
I mean, I know I can't binge after starving....but should I EVER have the opportunity again, how do I come from a healthy place after such a long time?
"Don't be needy" when you genuinely, legitimately need has always seemed like it called for me to be an actress or something.
Any thoughts?
Presence