Women who love too much often tell themselves the man with whom they are involved has never really been loved before, not by his parents, not by his previous wives or girlfriends. We see him as damaged and readily take on the task of making up for all that was missing in his life long before we even met him. We take his emotional unavailability, his anger or depression or cruelty or indifference or violence or dishonesty or addiction for signs that he has not been loved enough.
We pit our love against his faults his failings even his pathology. We are determined to save him through the power of our love.