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Safety
Mar 18, 2009 6:49:36 GMT -8
Post by estrela5 on Mar 18, 2009 6:49:36 GMT -8
One of the long-term effects of living in a dysfunctional family -- as children or adults -- is that we don't feel safe.
Much of what we call codependency happens because we don't feel safe in relationships. This can cause us to control, obsess, or focus on the other person, while neglecting ourselves or shutting down our feelings.
We can learn to make ourselves feel safe and comfortable, as part of a nurturing, loving attitude toward ourselves.
Often, we get a feeling of safety and comfort when we attend Twelve Step meetings or support groups. Being with a friend or doing something nice for ourselves helps us feel protected and loved. Sometimes, reaching out to another person helps us feel safe. Prayer and meditation help us affirm that our Higher Power cares for us.
We are safe now. We can relax. Perhaps others haven't been there for us in a consistent, trustworthy way, but we are learning to be there for ourselves.
Today, I will concentrate on making myself feel safe and comfortable.
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Safety
Mar 18, 2009 14:52:03 GMT -8
Post by cheri on Mar 18, 2009 14:52:03 GMT -8
So true!
One of my method to recovery safety is meditation in first chakra, imagine a red light at the bottom, and my root deeply in earth. This is old yoga method.
1st Chakra I am safe, I trust in the natural flow of life. I take my natural place in the world content in the knowledge that all I need will come to me in right time and space. I am secure and grounded in the physical form and give thanks to Mother Earth for the nourishment, shelter, and stability she gives me
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