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Post by estrela5 on Oct 12, 2009 17:49:27 GMT -8
During Times of Grief
The process of adapting to change and loss takes energy. Grief is draining, sometimes exhausting. Some people need to "cocoon for transformation," in Pat Carnes's words, while going through grief.
We may feel more tired than usual. Our ability to function well in other areas of our life may be reduced, temporarily. We may want to hide out in the safety of our bedroom.
Grief is heavy. It can wear us down.
It's okay to be gentle with ourselves when we're gong through change and grief. Yes, we want to maintain the disciplines of recovery. But we can be compassionate with ourselves. We do not have to expect more from ourselves than we can deliver during this time. We do not even have to expect as much from ourselves as we would normally and reasonably expect.
We may need more rest, more sleep, more comfort. We may be more needy and have less to give. It is okay to accept ourselves, and our changed needs, during times of grief, stress, and change.
It is okay to allow ourselves to cocoon during times of transformation. We can surrender to the process, and trust that a new, exciting energy is being created within us.
Before long, we will take wings and fly.
God, help me accept my changed needs during times of grief, change, and loss.
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Post by Angel on Oct 12, 2009 20:59:24 GMT -8
Thanks for writing this!
I don't feel so bad about feeling so tired and lethargic. I have hardly any energy and what I do have is quickly exhausted. I guess I am experiencing the grief of awareness and the struggle for growth.
I will be more gentle with myself and not have such unrealistic expectations.
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Post by geedee on Oct 13, 2009 0:54:55 GMT -8
I want to thank you too. I'm feeling the same way. Thought I was going to get thru the steps really quickly but just keeping up with the posts on the forum is so tiring. I'm sometimes too tired to stay on here. but getting most things done at work and round the house. amazing considering that when I was so wrapped up in my POA I was a disaster all round. i had no time for anyone. still not back to normal but the time on here is so well spent and so positive for me it really is a Godsend.
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