Post by ok2bme on Dec 26, 2009 13:01:08 GMT -8
My self esteem has really been tested from the outside. I already have low feelings behind my uncontrolled bouts behind my addiction. I've had a hopelessly low self esteem behind being unable to understand what took over me...and him. It's been embarrassing at times to say the least.
ON top of that, last week someone that new about us, thought it was a good time to tell several other co workers. The things that come back to me are not really nice. My PoA is a known womanizer & people are discussing my poor judgement, including the person that decided to open my 'addiction' for discussion. I've had a very tough week dealing with the actual addiction & then on top the embarrassment of judgement. I do not even know how I got through the week at work. Thankfully my focus has been to get better in sticking with that no matter what I have found strength and realized a few things....
1. I'm an adult.
2. I did not open this discussion with my co workers so it's not my place to close it or defend it, I'm not obligated to be involved.
3. It has not been a proud moment to fall madly in love with someone that is a known womanizer, but I have been ill & did not know it. That is nothing to be ashamed of, it's been a very painful ordeal, self inflicted or not.
4. If a friend or co worker suffered like I have, I would be compassionate, I have in other situations & that is something I feel good about. What this girl did to me was extremely heartless...but I forgive her, she does not know or care about the depths of my despair...& if she would do it anyway, her hurts must be far more than mine.
5. I've been good to my co workers & although some may have been surprised by my judgement, they remain to be kind & keep their opinions limited. Some only comment on how bad this guy is for me...which is taken as a form of concern.
6. I will get better & I will do better, I will make better choices for myself in the future. I'm sure of that if I stay on this path. So although it's not a proud moment at least when I behave more soundly it will be measurable. & people that care about me will be happy & people that don't will still find fault in me.
7. My best is good enough.
I made it through the week & well, ended up standing up inside. I was doing my best at the time & I can live with that.
ON top of that, last week someone that new about us, thought it was a good time to tell several other co workers. The things that come back to me are not really nice. My PoA is a known womanizer & people are discussing my poor judgement, including the person that decided to open my 'addiction' for discussion. I've had a very tough week dealing with the actual addiction & then on top the embarrassment of judgement. I do not even know how I got through the week at work. Thankfully my focus has been to get better in sticking with that no matter what I have found strength and realized a few things....
1. I'm an adult.
2. I did not open this discussion with my co workers so it's not my place to close it or defend it, I'm not obligated to be involved.
3. It has not been a proud moment to fall madly in love with someone that is a known womanizer, but I have been ill & did not know it. That is nothing to be ashamed of, it's been a very painful ordeal, self inflicted or not.
4. If a friend or co worker suffered like I have, I would be compassionate, I have in other situations & that is something I feel good about. What this girl did to me was extremely heartless...but I forgive her, she does not know or care about the depths of my despair...& if she would do it anyway, her hurts must be far more than mine.
5. I've been good to my co workers & although some may have been surprised by my judgement, they remain to be kind & keep their opinions limited. Some only comment on how bad this guy is for me...which is taken as a form of concern.
6. I will get better & I will do better, I will make better choices for myself in the future. I'm sure of that if I stay on this path. So although it's not a proud moment at least when I behave more soundly it will be measurable. & people that care about me will be happy & people that don't will still find fault in me.
7. My best is good enough.
I made it through the week & well, ended up standing up inside. I was doing my best at the time & I can live with that.