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Post by Susan Peabody on Jan 2, 2010 17:24:27 GMT -8
Affirmations
I took Susan's list of 17 self-esteem tips, from her article on self-esteem, and rewrote them in affirmation form. Enjoy! 1) I am growing more able to love and accept myself. 2) I am growing to really understand that I am worthy despite my shortcomings. 3) I am growing more observant and appreciative of my specific attributes. 4) My thoughts are growing more positive and self-affirming. 5) I am growing more respectful of myself. 6) I am proud to be growing more self-disciplined. 7) I am proud to be growing more responsible. 8) I am proud to be honoring my own value system more. 9) I am proud to be handling adversity better. 10) I am growing to love myself unconditionally while still pushing myself appropriately to make self-respecting choices. 11) I am surrounding myself more often with people who like me just the way I am. 12) I am growing more educated about building my self-esteem and healing my inner child. 13) I am getting to know myself (who I am, my values, needs, wants, taste, etc.) better. 14) I am learning to value myself more. 15) I am learning to accept that no one is perfect. 16) I am taking better care of myself. 17) I am developing a healthier balance between caring for myself and being kind to others. 18) I am learning to stop comparing myself to others and see my own unique specialness. 19) I am learning how to receive love and favors with more acceptance and gratitude. 20) I am learning to be more creative and use my talents more. 21) I am learning to stand up for myself more. 22) I am learning to better set limits. 23) I am learning to express my opinion more. 24) I am learning to walk away from neglect and abuse more. 25) I am learning to be appropriately assertive more. 26) I am learning to stop apologizing when I've done nothing wrong. 27) I am learning to make amends when I am definitely the guilty party. 28) I am growing more mentally prepared to not take it too seriously and to filter it out when people try to drag me down. 29) I am growing more awake to the love of my Higher Power. Love Ellen
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Post by stigger on Apr 8, 2010 6:53:08 GMT -8
Its hard to affirm when you really feel like you don't have much to offer. I have a masters degree in mental health counseling, but don't feel like I really learned anything. All my life I have daydreamed and lived in my head. Making it through school just meant I came out of my head long enough to read and get a decent grade. I am terrible at conversations and don't have any friends. I just don't feel like I have anything to offer anyone as a friend, but friends are the answer to my problem.
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Post by vee25 on Apr 9, 2010 0:56:38 GMT -8
Hi S, wow i'd love to know more about your masters in mental health counselling. I worked as a mental health support worker whilst studying Art therapy and it was quite an experience for one reason or another. I only last 6 months as a support worker as i was working with male adults from prisons and it was very voilent. Do you work in that field now? I'd like to go back to studying to be an Art therapist but its a huge committment and expensive. One day hopefully. I love art but don't do enough painting for myself. I bought a childrens mandala book yesterday to do some colouring as i wanted to do something for my inner child. Blessings and joy to you. V  |
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Post by gordana on Apr 10, 2010 19:54:10 GMT -8
I too have a hard time affirming myself. And difficulty being in a conversation. I'm so glad that there are others who feel the same way, and who understand. I have been thinking about this a lot lately. And I have a bachelors degree in psychology and a diploma in early childhood education. I have certificates for professional development . And i still feel lie I have nothing to contribute. I understand when you say that you have been living in your head while studying. I dint get it how I even graduated, because i have lived in my head all my life, too. I have to develop some interests and start learning about things that interest me, so I can have a normal conversations with people. This is the reason i isolate myself. I dont feel good enough
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Post by berly on Oct 6, 2010 7:00:03 GMT -8
These messages brought tears to my eyes. Why is it we don't see our true worth and beauty? I know God made us unique and special in our own ways. I believe in my heart of hearts that it our destiny to be healed and see ourselves from God's perspective. I understand how it feels to never feel "enough".....I will be thinking about this today and lifting you all and myself up in prayer.
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Post by honeypie on Jun 18, 2011 9:35:37 GMT -8
I have spent 32 years of my life from one pain misery relashionship to another, and for the last 3 years ive been so miserable unhappy in my marriage...i ended up in a women refuge...it was a disater and i came back with him even thou we were living in different houses...but after i've read the book the women who loves too much i cried compulsively...( it has been me all this years....me and my traumas of my disfunctional family). Im marking a X in each day i dont write or call him, in my calendary has many many X with some little intervals of a week or so(time we been "together",but now has been 1 month with no intervals...seems it will be the first birthday i will have accepting my condition and figthing against it..not against some man! It has not been easy..i just can't find a support group where i live...i would love to get e-mails from anyone thou. xx thank you ladies ss  Ps.im really lost in how to use the web site..any tip? xx thank you |
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Post by nvr2late on Jun 18, 2011 17:01:33 GMT -8
I copied and pasted, and created this into an 8 x 11 list with a pretty graphic for my wall right above my computer! I will refer to it often. Thank you Susan!
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Post by tori on Oct 21, 2011 20:45:57 GMT -8
Wow! I can so related to what everyone is saying because I have been feeling like I have nothing to offer anyone. I'm graduating in December with my Masters in Social Work and I found myself questioning this. How can I help anyone when I allowed myself to venture, once again into another unhealthy relationship.
However, I am choosing to forgive myself because I am not perfect, but I haven chosen to learn something from this last experience (along with all the others). Forgiving myself has always been so hard for me to do because I struggle with perfectionism. Nevertheless, I will and I will use all of this to become a better me, not a perfect me, but a better me because I AM WORTH IT!
That felt really good.
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Post by Loving My Life on Oct 22, 2011 2:47:51 GMT -8
tori, you are worth it, and as you get to know who you really are by just loving yourself, you will start to believe that also. Congrats on School, use this time for yourself, and you will be able to help so many people. Keep working on you. good job.
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Post by happyberry on Oct 22, 2011 7:42:46 GMT -8
THANK YOU!
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Post by CherryLimeAid on Feb 12, 2012 8:13:30 GMT -8
Bumping, because it's important.
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Post by looking4direction on Aug 12, 2012 12:12:32 GMT -8
I really needed this today, esp that comic strip. Perfect "funnies" for my Sunday! I cannot even be proud of myself, just grateful that I am getting a grip on this. I am not sure about that "balance" yet, between being self-affirming and selfish/full of myself. My friend told me last night I need to "give myself more credit" and I am still terrified of doing that; it's still too remembrant of how my abuser swelled my ego and trashed it by turns. I am attempting to develop a self-acceptance that does not feed my addiction or my avoidance. Thanks again, Carol |
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Post by lomew8 on Nov 19, 2012 3:58:28 GMT -8
Hello Guys my buddies and i have Highly low self esteem.All of us think that we are fat and unpleasant and useless. How do we increase our assurance before the future university season?
Any perfect suggestions about these?Thanks!!
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Post by hardlyquinn on Nov 24, 2012 14:07:05 GMT -8
I feel my self esteem is like a game of snakes and ladders. As long as all is going well I keep climbing through the game, sometimes getting a leg up the ladder, but as soon as difficulties arrive, whoosh, down the slippery snake I slide.
I don't manage stress well, as soon as it starts to take hold of me my emotions spiral out of control and I just react blindly and lash out at people. I do my best to minimise stress, but I have a busy life and that's not always possible.
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Post by goldberry on Feb 1, 2013 15:30:29 GMT -8
I really need these affirmations! I have the problem that I always feel like I'm a naive little kid around other people, and they always seem like the "smart grown ups." I'm obviously projecting my parents onto everyone. I have two master's degrees, I'm smart, and I always feel like an imposter.  |
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Post by Keira on Feb 23, 2013 12:23:51 GMT -8
Thankyou for the affirmations, will start using them from NOW
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Post by Loving My Life on Jul 17, 2013 13:05:12 GMT -8
I am reposting this for the Newcomers on the forum: Please share your positive affirmations about yourself... And start each good quality with I AM... I am a beautiful person on the inside and out. I am trustworthy. I am a very intelligent person. I love myself first and foremost. I forgive myself I am capable of changing. And add your own list, this is so important when we are trying to rebuild our self esteem and self worth. And it is okay to say these things about yourself, it does not mean you have a huge ego, this is what I thought when I first got into recovery. But I had to learn through this process, I had to do this in order to love myself again. Please Share, I know you can come up with one or two wonderful things about yourself, right?   |
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Post by Carito1988 on Aug 4, 2013 9:03:11 GMT -8
These are all the things I am grateful with God for having in my life:
I have a wonderful family
I have lived terrible things but now I can say I am a new person since I stop using (7 years clean from drugs in NA and trying to live a life in its maximus way)
I am an honest person
I am an intelligent person
I have an excellent job
I love traveling
I love the cinema
I am pretty, healthy and young
I can hear good music
I can taste incredible food
I can smell incredible smells
I can write about my life and my daylife
I can go to work out
I can sing my favorite songs
I am a disciplined woman
I am a faithful woman
I am a good daughter
I believe in God.
I am a committed person
I am a happy woman
I am not suffering right now terrible conditions.
I can give me tastes when I decide
I like the sun and the rain
I love to walk in a field full of flowers and nature
I am a capable person to do what ever I wish
I do actions more that saying words.
I have faced a lot of fears and I have defeat them.
I have knew incredible persons who have gave me a lot of lovely things.
And I have me and the opportunity to live even better when I decide.
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Post by Loving My Life on Mar 27, 2014 5:06:52 GMT -8
Please share your positive affirmations about yourself today: What do you see when you look into the mirror? Can you look yourself in the eyes and tell yourself today and everyday, and say "I Love YOU", and I am so sorry that I have let others hurt you so much. See if this does not help you too start loving yourself more each day, and do this until you can really love yourself, first and foremost. This is where I could finally begin to let my poa go, because I had to look myself in the eye everyday, and look at myself, and tell myself I did love me, and I finally believe this, and I could not keep allowing my poa to treat me the way he was treating me. Please don't ignore this thread!!!! Attachments:
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Post by Loving My Life on Mar 30, 2014 13:13:31 GMT -8
I just ran across this online and I wanted to pass this on...this is so very true, and it really happens when we learn how to really love ourselves once again, and when we set healthy boundaries. I thought I loved myself when I first got to recovery, but as time went on, and I got really honest with myself and how I let others continue to hurt me, I really did not know how to love myself. I was always told if you paid to much attention to yourself this was just your ego, but what I know today is there is a different in ego versus taking care of yourself, and really loving yourself. It is humility. I now give myself the love that I have spent so many years giving others, and not getting much in return. It is a awesome and empowering feeling to be in the point in my life today. Enjoy!!!!! Attachments:
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Post by Loving My Life on Apr 6, 2014 19:04:02 GMT -8
This is so true.... Attachments:
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Post by fufill on Apr 29, 2015 17:18:34 GMT -8
Thank you all for all those examples of self esteem affirmations.Now where do I start ?lol
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Post by fufill on May 4, 2015 18:37:57 GMT -8
I deserve to be in a healthy marriage.
I will listen to the positive voice within not the negative.
I will not settle.
I have so much positives in me/and to give.
I will no longer take crumbs.
begging for the love I deseve is unbecoming of me.
I am on a journey to become heathy in everyway.
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Post by loveellen on Oct 26, 2015 1:05:07 GMT -8
Affirmations
I took my list of 17 self-esteem tips above and rewrote them in affirmation form. Enjoy! 1) I am growing more able to love and accept myself. 2) I am growing to really understand that I am worthy despite my shortcomings. 3) I am growing more observant and appreciative of my specific attributes. 4) My thoughts are growing more positive and self-affirming. 5) I am growing more respectful of myself. 6) I am proud to be growing more self-disciplined. 7) I am proud to be growing more responsible. 8) I am proud to be honoring my own value system more. 9) I am proud to be handling adversity better. 10) I am growing to love myself unconditionally while still pushing myself appropriately to make self-respecting choices. 11) I am surrounding myself more often with people who like me just the way I am. 12) I am growing more educated about building my self-esteem and healing my inner child. 13) I am getting to know myself (who I am, my values, needs, wants, taste, etc.) better. 14) I am learning to value myself more. 15) I am learning to accept that no one is perfect. 16) I am taking better care of myself. 17) I am developing a healthier balance between caring for myself and being kind to others. 18) I am learning to stop comparing myself to others and see my own unique specialness. 19) I am learning how to receive love and favors with more acceptance and gratitude. 20) I am learning to be more creative and use my talents more. 21) I am learning to stand up for myself more. 22) I am learning to better set limits. 23) I am learning to express my opinion more. 24) I am learning to walk away from neglect and abuse more. 25) I am learning to be appropriately assertive more. 26) I am learning to stop apologizing when I've done nothing wrong. 27) I am learning to make amends when I am definitely the guilty party. 28) I am growing more mentally prepared to not take it too seriously and to filter it out when people try to drag me down. 29) I am growing more awake to the love of my Higher Power.  |
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