Post by Susan Peabody on Jan 3, 2010 1:07:32 GMT -8
Romance Addicts are ALAs who are addicted to multiple partners. Romance addicts are often confused with sex addicts. However, unlike sex addicts, who are trying to avoid bonding altogether, romance addicts bond with each of their partners—to one degree or another— even if the romantic liaisons are short-lived or happening simultaneously. By “romance” I mean sexual passion and pseudo-emotional intimacy. Please note that while romance addicts bond with each of their partners to a degree, their goal (besides getting high off of romance and drama) is to avoid commitment or bonding on a deeper level with one partner.
Addendum . . . 2020
Romance addicts are the closest love addicts come to substance abusers because they are getting high on the chemistry of love. If you google "the chemistry of romantic love" you will find a list of drugs released in the brain when people fall in love. If you are depressed you can get high off of romantic love. When the high wears off [the honeymoon is over] then you move on to the next romantic interest. In the later stages of the addiction you probably have many, many romantic partners to get a fix. My last client had 4. See article about triangles on my web site. Here is the link. Also many people confuse romance addicts with sex addicts. If multiple affairs are just sexual you are a sex addict. If you bond or fall in love with each partner you are a romance addict. Tiger Woods, the famous golfer was a romance addict. He had multiple affairs but he cared about each of the women.