Chrissy
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Post by Chrissy on Jun 20, 2011 7:35:12 GMT -8
I am a romance/obsessed addict..I can meet someone and if he says the right thing than I melt like butter. I also am attracted to unhealthy men- ones that aren't worth my time. Yet something draws me. My self esteem or rather lack of is a huge part of all this. My wanting to show someone that I am worthy makes me spin out of control and I end up looking like a crazed person. I can rationalize all this in my head but than the inner child who wants that reassuarance and acceptance tries so hard to get it from these men.. It happens at crucial times when I am at a crossroads in my life I turn to these type of men
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Post by tizzy on Jun 21, 2011 7:56:57 GMT -8
EVerything in your post says "I am..." You are what you think. Right now you don't think too highly of yourself. Start saying positive affirmations to yourself everyday, even if you don't believe it quite yet. For instance, say "I make healthy choices" "I am a beautiful person inside and out" "I am dedicated to my recovery" Keep your affirmations positive and in the present (nothing about future or past). I have done this every single day for the past 4 months and it has helped turn my life and my self-esteem around in a healthy, positive direction.
Dedicate yourself to recovery and give men a break for a while. Date yourself and focus on you! Keep loving and comforting your inner child, and work hard on thinking with your rational, adult brain in all aspects of your life instead of all the emotions. Read some good books on love addiction and healthy relationships to learn what your childhood did not teach you. The healthier perspective you'll gain will be priceless.
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Chrissy
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Post by Chrissy on Jun 21, 2011 11:48:00 GMT -8
I agree, I have been in recovery for quite some time, the self esteem issue has been huge for me, huge!! I am trying with positive affirmations and believe that this will support my recovery and allow myself to at some point make healthy choices for a mate.. I can do this..have overcome many other obstacles in life to this point..
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