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Post by estrela5 on Feb 3, 2010 20:09:56 GMT -8
Self care means taking responsibility for ourselves. Taking responsibility for ourselves includes assuming our true responsibilities to others.
Sometimes, when we begin recovery, we're worn down from feeling responsible for so many other people. Learning that we need only take responsibility for ourselves may be such a great relief that, for a time, we disown our responsibilities to others.
The goal in recovery is to find the balance: we take responsibility for ourselves, and we identify our true responsibilities to others.
This may take some sorting through, especially if we have functioned for years on distorted notions about our responsibilities to others. We may be responsible to one person as a friend or as an employee; to another person, we're responsible as an employer or as a spouse. With each person, we have certain responsibilities. When we tend to those true responsibilities, we'll find balance in our life.
We are also learning that while others aren't responsible for us, they are accountable to us in certain ways.
We can learn to discern our true responsibilities for ourselves, and to others. We can allow others to be responsible for themselves and expect them to be appropriately responsible to us.
We'll need to be gentle with ourselves while we learn.
Today, I will strive for clear thinking about my actual responsibilities to others. I will assume these responsibilities as part of taking care of myself.
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Post by ok2bme on Feb 4, 2010 21:35:09 GMT -8
All these positive posts are inspiring.
I have been reading Facing Love Addiction & it has helped me to realize how many of my frustrastions have come from the lack of knowing how to 'self care' & handle responsibilities in a more balanced way.
It was not ever clear what was mine & what was theirs, because I always just did what was in front of me without decernment. This often left me with doing what was NOT for me & neglected what was for me. & feeling less than.
Which also leads to being overwhelmed & looking for an escape...someone responsible & with a sure sense of their priorities...didn't matter I was not one of them...I just saw strength in the fact they had their own priorities.
Today my aim is to be responsible for my actions, feelings & duties & have peace with what is not mine & enjoy the outcome. I think it will be another step off of thee ol' escape ladder.
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