Post by Susan Peabody on Aug 2, 2010 17:57:45 GMT -8
Answering a client . . .
I am very moved that you would go to so much trouble to see me but we can do this together on the email. Inner child work is something you do on your own anyway.
Bradshaw tried to create groups where you sat in the middle of the room and everyone welcomed you into the world, but it never really took off because we block out what others think of us. We block out the love of others because we are shame-based. (Read Healing the Shame That Binds You."
So there is no hands-on inner child experience. I will give you instructions and you just do it. Then e-mail me with a description of the experience (especially on your feelings.)
If you still want to try doing it with someone find someone you trust to read the inner child meditation in the back of my book Addiction to Love.
Spend some time alone looking at pictures of yourself as a child. Frame one of them.
Find a quiet place. I like to close the drapes and lie in my bed.
Use your mind to go back in time. Imagine you are in front of the place you lived in while you were growing up. If there is more than one place choose the one with the most meaning.
Suddenly the door of the dwelling opens. A child comes out. (After the experience write down her age and demeanor. Is she reluctant to come out? Is she sad? Is she frightened?
Introduce yourself as her long lost mother who has come home to take her away.
Will she come to you? If not just keep talking to her in a sweet, comforting way.
If she will come with you, then take her by the hand. Is she happy? Is she skipping? Does she look back?
Look over your shoulder and see the parents or parent get smaller and smaller. If you were adopted the porch might be empty.
Stop and turn to your child. Watch as she fades to light and then watch the light enter your body.
You and your child are now one.
Visit your child every day.
Talk to her . . .
Play with her . . .
Tell her what she can and cannot do. . .
Comfort her. . .
Remind her daily how much she is loved. . .
Guide her. . .
Love your child, but don't give her the keys to the car. . .
REPORT BACK TO ME
This is Susie . . . my inner child. (Note the butch hair cut.)
I am very moved that you would go to so much trouble to see me but we can do this together on the email. Inner child work is something you do on your own anyway.
Bradshaw tried to create groups where you sat in the middle of the room and everyone welcomed you into the world, but it never really took off because we block out what others think of us. We block out the love of others because we are shame-based. (Read Healing the Shame That Binds You."
So there is no hands-on inner child experience. I will give you instructions and you just do it. Then e-mail me with a description of the experience (especially on your feelings.)
If you still want to try doing it with someone find someone you trust to read the inner child meditation in the back of my book Addiction to Love.
Spend some time alone looking at pictures of yourself as a child. Frame one of them.
Find a quiet place. I like to close the drapes and lie in my bed.
Use your mind to go back in time. Imagine you are in front of the place you lived in while you were growing up. If there is more than one place choose the one with the most meaning.
Suddenly the door of the dwelling opens. A child comes out. (After the experience write down her age and demeanor. Is she reluctant to come out? Is she sad? Is she frightened?
Introduce yourself as her long lost mother who has come home to take her away.
Will she come to you? If not just keep talking to her in a sweet, comforting way.
If she will come with you, then take her by the hand. Is she happy? Is she skipping? Does she look back?
Look over your shoulder and see the parents or parent get smaller and smaller. If you were adopted the porch might be empty.
Stop and turn to your child. Watch as she fades to light and then watch the light enter your body.
You and your child are now one.
Visit your child every day.
Talk to her . . .
Play with her . . .
Tell her what she can and cannot do. . .
Comfort her. . .
Remind her daily how much she is loved. . .
Guide her. . .
Love your child, but don't give her the keys to the car. . .
REPORT BACK TO ME
This is Susie . . . my inner child. (Note the butch hair cut.)