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Post by sunnybird100 on Nov 26, 2010 7:33:39 GMT -8
I've avoided contact with my POA for two months. Today I'll see him at a group event. We have a classic LA/Narcissist relationship. He may treat me kind or he may push me away with indiffernce or meaness . . . it's hard to say. Regardless, I'm going with my head held high, my self-respect in tact, and will take care of my needs with nurturing love. No back sliding for this girl. I'm counting on all my friends here to send strength, good thoughts, prayers and love my way.
Sunnybird
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Post by EmoUnavail on Nov 26, 2010 9:22:05 GMT -8
Good Luck, I dont envy you ....
Seeing the POA is one of the worst feelings ever.
You know the triggers and the behaviour, thats a blessing in itself.
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Post by sunnybird100 on Nov 27, 2010 7:20:06 GMT -8
Well, it went all right yesterday, overall. It appears that he will be part of this group on a weekly basis, so I'm seeing it as way to learn new behaviors. He was cordial, but pretty much ignored me. I blocked him out and enjoyed the other people. It wasn't until late last night that I awoke with the pain. What's amazing is how this addiction has the same withdrawal symptoms as substance abuse. My determination is to be able to be "around" this person or any trigger-type without falling off the wagon. Alchoholics learn to be around alchohol without drinking. I should be able to do the same with LA. Wish me luck!
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Post by iselita on Nov 27, 2010 9:38:25 GMT -8
Yepp the withdrawals are about the same of withdrawals from a substance abuse. It's strange but i dry heave, and get so sick to my stomach. I think it's the anxiety, I don't really know but yess.. I hear they are like heroin withdrawals.
That's so good that you are working through your issues with seeing your poa. Maybe just so that you are fully focused. You should look into a different group. I understand that like an alcoholic we have to learn to be around the stuff. But not always can we be around our addiction, for a lot of addicts its best to just stay away.
huggs
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