Recovering from codependency is like one test after another.
I was able to set a boundary yesterday and cancel plans I had with this guy I was seeing to have some time with my kids. I felt bad cancelling because my planning was bad. I had figured out that if I had gone out with him I would have had only 1 night home with my kids in two weeks. So I cancelled. He was fine with it.
Then last night I saw some woman posted something totally inappropriate on his facebook page. I told him what I thought of it and asked him to communicate with her that I was hurt by what she said and I thought it was inappropriate and not to do it again. I plan not to follow up on his talk with her but if it happens again or if more comes of it I will take action to protect myself. So far so good.
Taking care of myself seems to be a sign of recovery. I am getting there. Its all new to me.
"Nothing in life worth having ever comes easy" Bob Kelso