No More Self Sabotage

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No More Self Sabotage Jan 3, 2011 14:11:35 GMT -8

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Post by lacypooh on Jan 3, 2011 14:11:35 GMT -8

One thing I know I do/did was block out the good in my life. This must stem from low self esteem. For a long time I didn't understand that I didn't love myself. I felt I was ok and it was everyone else who had the problem. I didn't understand why I kept being hurt by others, but after experiencing the same kind of cycles I knew the problem had to be within me.

Anyway, after months here, I discovered the self sabotage, and although it's still hard for me to admit, I don't/didn't believe I deserve good things, but it must be true. Well now I am trying to stop blocking out good things in my life. I have a list of goals that I am almost scared to reach for because in the past I'd get so far and then just stop. I want a better life. I want better in all areas of my life.

So I'd like some helpful insight on how I can stop sabotaging my efforts to improve my life( although I think i have made progress).

Last Edit: Jan 3, 2011 14:14:57 GMT -8 by lacypooh

lacypooh Guest	No More Self Sabotage Jan 3, 2011 18:29:22 GMT -8 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Back to Top Post by lacypooh on Jan 3, 2011 18:29:22 GMT -8 Paisely, I found that very helpful, it reminds me of the song I dedicated to my inner child, Paramore- Only Exception( link to song below), thank you!
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Post by gordana on Feb 11, 2011 20:35:31 GMT -8

I Can definitely relate to blocking good things out of my life. I am at a crossroads now, allowing myself to accept and create better for myself. I got a promotion at work, and with it more responsibilities. I was so stressed out and thinking negatively. I do not deserve this position, I will not be able to do it, I am not smart enough, etc....... It went on and on and on. Then I let go and allowed myself to just do the best I could, with my H P's help. I have learned new things, and already done so much for the company. My self esteem just rocked it sky high. I know deep in my soul that I am capable of so much more. And with this comes a feeling of great sadness, that I am 53 years old and just now discovered the power I have within myself. I accept the fact and the losses, but I will not settle. I am moving up. despite my age. I also met a nice man who has been very consistent with keeping in contact and I enjoy his company very much. But I am looking at all the wrong things, like he is too short, has a crooked tooth, works on weekends, etc. These are all things on the outside, but he is so far, beautiful on the inside. I am going to sabotage this relationship, because I don't think I deserve a good man who really likes me. So, I am working on building up my self esteem by telling my little girl, that she deserves this attention, and someone who wants to be with her, and who is just simply a nice person. It's hard work
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Freetolive Elder Member Posts: 596	No More Self Sabotage Jul 11, 2011 15:53:59 GMT -8 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Back to Top Post by Freetolive on Jul 11, 2011 15:53:59 GMT -8 I'm trying to stay off facebook for 30 days. It's not healthy for me to be stalking around. I hope by staying away for 30 days I'll be better able to move on. It's time for some self love in this here matter.
	Life is short. Enjoy the ride with love as your guide~I said that.

Post by lacypooh on Jan 3, 2011 14:11:35 GMT -8

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