Post by Susan Peabody on Apr 19, 2008 16:39:15 GMT -8
From our friend Telmita . . .
Hi Star...
Don't always "depend" on your emotions to guide you. Recovery of love addiction takes logic and lots of realistic thinking to replace old, out-moded "truths." Besides, emotions don't always tell you what's best for you. They are the child inside that says: "I WANT!" whether it's good for you or not. They do not have a conscious ability to think reasonably and say to you, "wait a minute, I've left her because she treated me so badly..." (or whatever!). Your emotions probably sensed the Spring, the one year mark...and had a memory of the "good feeling."
The reason you probably felt panicky, alone and depressed might not have been so much because you were missing her, as you let your emotions carry you away.
Stay in control. Remember who's boss! Pat yourself on the back and keep moving forward. If you ALLOW your emotions to drive you, you will relapse.
Telmita
Hi Star...
Don't always "depend" on your emotions to guide you. Recovery of love addiction takes logic and lots of realistic thinking to replace old, out-moded "truths." Besides, emotions don't always tell you what's best for you. They are the child inside that says: "I WANT!" whether it's good for you or not. They do not have a conscious ability to think reasonably and say to you, "wait a minute, I've left her because she treated me so badly..." (or whatever!). Your emotions probably sensed the Spring, the one year mark...and had a memory of the "good feeling."
The reason you probably felt panicky, alone and depressed might not have been so much because you were missing her, as you let your emotions carry you away.
Stay in control. Remember who's boss! Pat yourself on the back and keep moving forward. If you ALLOW your emotions to drive you, you will relapse.
Telmita
