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Post by sunflwrs4evr on Jun 1, 2011 7:22:29 GMT -8
I have been struggling with this one my whole entire life...when i hear these words...i think...well geeze that should make sense why i am a love addict...i want to be my love addict....i want so badly to let go and fall in love with me....and not worry about a dysfunctional available man to do it for me...i have to do this for myself... Yesterday I woke up read a feedback on here about self-love...and i really couldnt think of many self love things that i did for me that had me feeling passionately and something just for me that wasnt work related....i found thateverything i generally did they all took work and effort and lots of energy and strength to do..such as recovery and school....and just doing my everyday things... So as i was preparing to go to an Al-Anon...i was thinking maybe its a spiritual meeting...and it went on from there....i go to the meeting and its about..yeap ....self-love...it was a great meeting....for the first time...i felt very open and free and i shared my truth...about self love...after that and going to my recovery group...i went to the gym and got into the water and really found my passion in the water...its been awhile and 9 pm at nite..i pushed myself to go....and i loved it...i thought that even the simple things were self love...i would love to hear how other people see self love in their lives....Sun  |
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Post by dorkestbeforedawn on Jun 1, 2011 7:51:40 GMT -8
Way to go, Sunny!
I spend almost all my free time at meetings, and my act of self love so far has revolved around those and step work.
Usually, I numb out with video games or some other electronic and mental escapes. I am learning to explore myself, light and dark places alike. Keeping my computer and XBox off is another act of self love. It's hard as hell, but I am worth it!
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Post by sunflwrs4evr on Jun 2, 2011 6:40:08 GMT -8
thanks...and yes ....you are worth...we are all worth it....its just so hard anymore to remember everything we need to remember....and then to take care of ourselves....i was zoning out looking on the dating sites....and yesterday...i thought,,.i will get off of them...and then i thought...no that will be too hard for me to do...so instead ..i edited my profile...and stated at the bottom...that if you are interested in sex,,,,mind games.....and lies...please move on.....and i added them to both of my profiles...and guess what...i have not gotten one response from either one of those sites...so God has done for me what I couldnt of done for myself....all i have to do is be accepting of it all...and i am willing to do this for now ...one moment at a time....
I also purchased some plants yesterday.....and i will nurturing myself in my garden as i nurture my plants....Sun:) And i now come on the boards first before the dating sites....well they say...one step at a time....it does work if we work it and we are worth it....
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Post by Healing Ku'uipo on Jun 2, 2011 10:28:40 GMT -8
Yay to nurturing plants! Relationships with plants are a true give and take... If you give them love and attention they respond and give you beautiful flowers and nurishing food. They are good practice for how to treat yourself! And look at the rewards!!
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Post by LovelyJune on Jun 2, 2011 14:22:40 GMT -8
Funny thing about self love. It's actually WORK. We are so easily tempted to believe that good experiences and activities will just come to us, but that often does not happen. Many of us have no desire to do anything else but fall in love. Nothing else FEELS as good. However, this is because we are desensitized to feeling. The extreme HIGHS and LOWS our PoAs offered us, the highs and lows of a new romance, have all wreaked havoc on our brain's chemical balancing system. We are, dare i say it, junkies. And in order to FEEL good without a poA, we have to work a little harder.
That being said, don't give up so easily on trying to find acts of self love and actitivies that feel good. Try to be content with "content" instead of expecting a HIGH off of things.
Appreciate little things. ANd by all means recognize that ANY time you avoid a toxic situation or a toxic person and put your boundaries up, you are embarking upon the act of self love! Find your values. WHat are they? Once you know what your values you are, stick to them! This too is an act of self love. xo
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Post by sunflwrs4evr on Jun 2, 2011 18:12:51 GMT -8
awesome thanks...so much...i am smiling from ear to ear...It's funny that i do so much self love for myself....and yet I dont see it all or even acknowledge it all...mmmmm....food for thought...All i have to do is look in my home ..and even the outside of my home...I am feeling very grateful at this moment....wow...i am overwhelmed and allowing the feelings to come up and knowing its okay and this is the way its supposed to be...thanks again so much....i will write more tommorrow Sun:)
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