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Post by Freetolive on Jun 26, 2011 17:13:11 GMT -8
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Post by melsoul on Jun 26, 2011 17:14:34 GMT -8
That's my theory.
I mean, that our craving for our POA comes ultimately from our inner child. Mine does.
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Post by Freetolive on Jun 26, 2011 17:20:05 GMT -8
So what does it mean for our inner child to like the POA? If I was addicted, then so was he. Right?
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Post by Freetolive on Jun 26, 2011 18:02:10 GMT -8
My inner child must not want me to love him, He wants POA or somebody. Because I find my thoughts drifting to POA and wonder what she's doing, or to so other person. So I keep trying to bring those thoughts back to, she's not coming back or we have to love ourselves.
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Post by mgb on Jun 27, 2011 2:36:00 GMT -8
You are asking some great questions there free!
Good suggestions at how to keep our thoughts in check too.
Yes our IC wants to be loved..... everybody's dose, so in recovery we try to give our inner child what it needs ourselves, other wise we are just trying to get what we need from another, ie our PoAs, and ultimately this is selfish and desperate....usually our PoAs are trying to get their same needs meet from us too, because like attracts like and they are unhealthy also, this is where all the hurt and torment enscews.......two children fighting it out for lack of love, when put like that is sounds so sad really.
I for one don't want to be like this anymore.
But loving our inner child and healing this part of ourselves, in the process helps us to be adult about love and our choices and eventually healthy enough, in the hopes that we can come from a wholeness and authenticity in the self......so if and when we meet with another, we are not needing them, just wanting to be a part of their lives. Just some thoughts, Thanks for opening the discussion.
Mgb.
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Post by melsoul on Jun 28, 2011 14:54:39 GMT -8
....usually our PoAs are trying to get their same needs meet from us too, because like attracts like and they are unhealthy also, this is where all the hurt and torment enscews.......two children fighting it out for lack of love, when put like that is sounds so sad really. Wow. that hit me between the eyes. That's exactly what my POA and I were trying to do for/to each other. There's a reality check!
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Post by caroclean on Jun 28, 2011 20:32:06 GMT -8
I need to start doing my 12 steps because I do not recognize yet the relation between my PoA and my Inner Child, I think I am still very new on this ... I have like some thoughts about it, but it is not enough to understand the reason of my addiction, and of my behaviors. Important thing to know to start a new pathway Thank you.
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Post by kelleyrae61 on Jun 29, 2011 16:29:03 GMT -8
My POA kept telling me how much he hated himself for cheating on supposedly the "LOVE OF HIS LIFE", over 25 years ago he told me I was the one to help him find LOVE again. I BELIEVED HIM!!! DUH!!!
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