Post by faubourg on Aug 13, 2011 7:28:06 GMT -8
Hello everyone,
I have realized recently that one of the reason why i feel so hopeless often in this life is that i never had my place in my family and i never thought this could be possible one day, i had to win it, work for it, self sabotage to be "loved" etc...
someone suggested to me that i deserve this place, it is mine, i have to go and conquer it back! and it rang such a bell for me,
As i never had my place ever anywhere i don't know what it entails.
symbolically and also in a more tangible way, in daily life
I am searching about it, i read sthg interesting :
- saying what i think, creating relationships with others,
- i realized driving is a way for me to have a place in this world (i drive my life, i am the driver, i choose the direction and i go where i want to go),
- organizing my time too is a big one : not staying on my own at home and hiding from life but instead organizing holidays etc, i always worked (except these last months) but earning my salary was more about not being a burden for my family (that is why i started working) and being free to buy stuff for me because my mother was extremly reluctant to buy anything that would allow me to be autonomous and becoming a woman
working was never about discovering the world, my capacities, making projects no!
- also having a boyfriend that is a great way to have my place in this world, except i never allowed that to myself, except lousy boyfriends, now i feel stuck i cannot do with lousy boyfriends anymore but i feel i don't deserve a man i fancy
I realize as i write that doing things with another perspective is an answer ex: working to fulfill my projects
I was wondering if you have ideas, feelings about this? it would help a lot
Thanks everyone,
and have a lovely 24hours
Faubourg
I have realized recently that one of the reason why i feel so hopeless often in this life is that i never had my place in my family and i never thought this could be possible one day, i had to win it, work for it, self sabotage to be "loved" etc...
someone suggested to me that i deserve this place, it is mine, i have to go and conquer it back! and it rang such a bell for me,
As i never had my place ever anywhere i don't know what it entails.
symbolically and also in a more tangible way, in daily life
I am searching about it, i read sthg interesting :
- saying what i think, creating relationships with others,
- i realized driving is a way for me to have a place in this world (i drive my life, i am the driver, i choose the direction and i go where i want to go),
- organizing my time too is a big one : not staying on my own at home and hiding from life but instead organizing holidays etc, i always worked (except these last months) but earning my salary was more about not being a burden for my family (that is why i started working) and being free to buy stuff for me because my mother was extremly reluctant to buy anything that would allow me to be autonomous and becoming a woman
working was never about discovering the world, my capacities, making projects no!
- also having a boyfriend that is a great way to have my place in this world, except i never allowed that to myself, except lousy boyfriends, now i feel stuck i cannot do with lousy boyfriends anymore but i feel i don't deserve a man i fancy
I realize as i write that doing things with another perspective is an answer ex: working to fulfill my projects
I was wondering if you have ideas, feelings about this? it would help a lot
Thanks everyone,
and have a lovely 24hours
Faubourg