Post by LovelyJune on Nov 16, 2008 15:17:34 GMT -8
There are a lot of people hurting on these boards these past few days. People whom I have seen do well for MONTHS but who have now, seemingly lost that spark, that HOPE, that taste of freedom of recovery.
My remedy is an odd one.
You need an escape of startling adventure.
Heck, no. I'm not expecting any one to dash off to Aruba or some far off, exotic place. I am, though, expecting that you try to turn the mundaneness of daily life into an adventure.
Like everyone here (and I'm sure it's only a matter of time) I too forget that recovery is an activity. Not a passive one. But an active one. I too forget that I am in charge of my life. That i need to stick a pin in my arse and really FORCE myself to knock off the obsessing or feeling sorry for myself. I need to make my recovery work for me.
I think we all hit a saturation point. We've come so far in recovery and have worked so hard at being good to ourselves that we end up choking on it all and reverting back to our old ways. We get lazy, or bored with recovery. And then we wonder why we are still stuck.
This is a phase. And we have to be patient with ourselves for slips and relapses and laziness and all that other junk. Because the BIGGER picture is that we are growing. We are changing. We are not where we were 20 years ago, 10 years ago, 3...
Sometimes, the ONLY way to combat a slump or a phase is to SHAKE YOURSELF UP. Do something a little silly. Go on an adventure. Remember the BEAUTY in life. Remember the GIFT that you bring to the world...and if you cannot actually go any where or do anything, lose yourself in a book. Take off to parts unknown. Surf the web using keywords like "hope,"
"spirit," "joy," "travel," "feminism," "strength"...What ever you do, force change upon yourself. Misery is not an option.
hugs,
T
My remedy is an odd one.
You need an escape of startling adventure.
Heck, no. I'm not expecting any one to dash off to Aruba or some far off, exotic place. I am, though, expecting that you try to turn the mundaneness of daily life into an adventure.
Like everyone here (and I'm sure it's only a matter of time) I too forget that recovery is an activity. Not a passive one. But an active one. I too forget that I am in charge of my life. That i need to stick a pin in my arse and really FORCE myself to knock off the obsessing or feeling sorry for myself. I need to make my recovery work for me.
I think we all hit a saturation point. We've come so far in recovery and have worked so hard at being good to ourselves that we end up choking on it all and reverting back to our old ways. We get lazy, or bored with recovery. And then we wonder why we are still stuck.
This is a phase. And we have to be patient with ourselves for slips and relapses and laziness and all that other junk. Because the BIGGER picture is that we are growing. We are changing. We are not where we were 20 years ago, 10 years ago, 3...
Sometimes, the ONLY way to combat a slump or a phase is to SHAKE YOURSELF UP. Do something a little silly. Go on an adventure. Remember the BEAUTY in life. Remember the GIFT that you bring to the world...and if you cannot actually go any where or do anything, lose yourself in a book. Take off to parts unknown. Surf the web using keywords like "hope,"
"spirit," "joy," "travel," "feminism," "strength"...What ever you do, force change upon yourself. Misery is not an option.
hugs,
T
